Post # 1
So I actually have nothing against the garter and bouquet toss. I think they are funny and cute, not tacky at all ;o)
Fiance is insistent on doing the garter “removal.” I’m totally fine with that. And I would actually love to do the garter and bouquet toss.
However, we are actually going to have very few single people at the wedding. And I don’t want to single out my unattached buddies by making them stand up there and catch the bouquet.
Aside from the “anniversary” dance, is there anything else we can do? Or should I just go for the traditional tosses and hope it works with the people involved?
Post # 3
I’ve heard of people inviting everyone up for the tosses (not just the single people). I’ve also heard of people attaching a gift card to the bouquet to make it more of a competition for everyone.
Post # 4
The tosses are something that everyone has an opinion on! I personally will be doing them – I think they are cute and funny as well! Typically the “single” people are all the unmarried people, whether they are in a relationship or not. Does that increase your number of people who would participate in the toss?? Otherwise you could just ask for all the females to come up…who cares?! Haha…I sure wouldn’t. I think you should go ahead with the usual tosses if that is what you and your Fiance want.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i went to a wedding recently where everyone, not just the singles, were invited to get up there for the toss, and there was a gift card or something attached to the garter/bouquet. it was really fun except that i didn’t catch the bouquet, which sucked.
Post # 6
At a wedding I went to, they did it vice versus. The guys caught the bouquet and presented it to their date/whomever they wanted. The ladies caught the garter. It was different.
Post # 7
Miss Pug already beat me to my suggestion, and I like Dancermgu’s idea as well. Just because it switches things up, so people will be focused on that and not the awkwardness. It does kind of suck to get called for your relationship status.
I’m of mixed opinion on this stuff. We’re probably not doing one, mostly because we are generally anti-tradition. But while I profess to not be a fan, it always seems to come at a lull in conversation or a point where everyone’s getting a little tired of dancing. So it’s a fun, if silly, break.
Post # 8
You have to look at your guests before you look at certain wedding traditions to follow. If you know there will be very few single guests, don’t have tosses. Even those who are single don’t find them amusing. It is ok to skip tradition and not have any tosses and let the music/dancing go the entire night without breaks. Not all guests enjoy the idea of “dance for a bit. stop for an activity done out of tradition. dance a bit more. stop for another traditional activity that doesn’t fit anyone’s needs/wants. dance for bit more. etc”.
Post # 9
Thanks, all! I really like Mrs. Pug’s suggestion as well. I ordered a toss bouquet so I have to do something with it LoL. We could skip the garter toss if we wanted. I just am not in love with the anniversary dance, so I appreciate the other suggestions :o)