(Closed) Should I do this to make her feel better (might be a but gross, sorry)?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that is really sweet that ou would do that.  Talk to your parents about it maybe and see what they think.  I don’t think it could hurt.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I really wouldn’t.. I think it would be a better route to accept her as is, not embarass her over it at all, but I wouldn’t use a diaper myself.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

how about you wear it but don’t use it? won’t waste multiple diapers but might make her feel less weird!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think that’s necessary. I think you can make it til food or make an excuse to get gas or stop at a rest stop to stretch your legs and also go to the bathroom.  You don’t need to use a diaper to make your sister feel accepted, but you could wear one to be like “hey look we’re both wearing them! you don’t have to be alone!”

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

Is it possible to stop more frequently and encourage her to use the bathroom every time you stop? Isn’t it more likely that if she goes before she feels the urge, she wouldn’t need to use the diaper unnecessarily either?

The biggest flaw I see in your plan is that it sounds almost like you want to use the diaper yourself – and the longer between stops also means the more times she herself will use her own diaper. I’m surprised you wouldn’t want to help her find ways to live with this proactively as much as possible.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sorry – I wasn’t suggesting she could predict when she would need to go. I was suggesting preventative pee breaks. I know I can almost always go before I feel the “urge”; can your sister, or does her disorder extend that far? ETA – or does she “leak” (sorry – that sounds gross but I don’t know how else to phrase it) constantly?

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Km127848: ahh.

What does she think of the idea of you wearing a diaper too? Do you think drawing extra attention to it would embarrass her more? Would you tell her when you’d used it, and do you think that would make her feel uncomfortable?

I think the best way to approach this definitely depends 100% on your sister’s personality and how she would react to it. There are some kids who I can see needing that empathy, and others who I can see being mortified by the mention of it.

My other big concern would be this – since you CAN hold it, you would have to make a conscious choice to “go” while in the car (driving even). If I were in that situation, I would feel super awkward and uncomfortable – and probably unable to mask how uncomfortable I was, which I fear would just reinforce for her that it’s an awkward thing, rather than showing her it’s not a big deal.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sounds ilke you’ve made your mind up 🙂

Maybe do a practice run – ultimately the “changing” part would be the same, but her going without control and you getting the urge, fidgeting, deciding to let go and then experiencing wet diaper for the first time in your adult life would be very different experiences.

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