Should I downsize my stone?

posted 11 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Congrats! I think it looks perfect on your hand but that being said, if you’re not comfortable then that’s most important!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Stone shrinkage syndrome is a real thing! I think your solitaire looks perfect, and balanced on your finger. Give it some time to get used to it before making any decisions. Personally, I wound up going from a 6.5mm up to a 7.7mm round, but I’ve got larger fingers. You can always buy a cheap cz ring in different sizes to try out, and see which one feels best. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

If you love it, don’t change it!  I think it looks beautiful.  But definitely go with how your heart feels.  Congrats on your engagement!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Looks like the perfect size. You will get used to it! 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@anna012:  it honestly looks perfect on your hand. Shrinkage is real, just give yourself time to get used to it. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1999 - Tacoma, WA

I think it looks fantastic. BUT, if it’s still bothering you and it’s been a full 5 weeks, I might recomment changing it.

Post # 22
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Helper bee

Your ring is beautiful!  I vote keep it as it is.  I don’t think you’ll regret it in the longrun.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I was expecting something completely different when reading what you wrote in your first post then I scrolled down and I don’t think it looks too large. It’s beautiful and looks great on your finger! 

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@anna012:  

lt looks fine, just a normal size and a nice classic design. You do mention your friends all having diamonds though, and l know you said a moissanite was ok by you and not being ‘passed off’ as anything else,  but l wonder if in your heart you wish it was a diamond, and it being a bigger  stone is not , after all, a compensation. ….

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

Did you try on any rings before you bought this one to see what size stone you like best on you? 

Do you think you would be happier with a 6.5mm moissy? Or would you feel the same?

I think that’s what you need to figure out

If you love the size and how it sparkles but are just self conscious then it might just take some time to get used to

But if you don’t actually like the size then that’s fair too

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My ring is a 1.5 carat equivalent and my finger is 5.75. The seller I bought the stone from didn’t have a 1.25 in OEC so I would have had to go to a 1 carat equivalent, and I wasn’t sure enough about it so I stuck with 1.5. I still sometimes feel like it’s too big, but it’s beautiful and it’s my ring, so I won’t change it. But if I could do it over, I think I’d go for the 1 carat equivalent. Shrinkage never happened for me. I think that where you live/what you see on other people can absolutely influence how you feel about your stone size and what proportions you find pleasing. I say go with your gut. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

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@anna012:  I think this ring looks gorgeous and perfect for your finger size! FWIW, I am more partial to larger solitaires, so I think your ring looks amazing.

If you don’t have a set timeframe of when you’d need to exchange it for a different stone, maybe you could see how you feel after having this ring for a while? (I realize I am responding late so this might not be an issue anymore)

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