Post # 1
I’ve been having a lot of issues with one of my bridesmaids and im tryignt o decide if i want to drop her or not. shes not a relative, just a friend. I was in her wedding and orignally she was going to be my only bm along with my sister who is the Maid/Matron of Honor. now tho i added 2 more BMs. everyone else has been really corporative and ordered their dresses already. due to finacial reasons we have already had to move our wedding back once. now because of that she is refusing to order her dress! she says she will once its closer if she changes size or something which is understandable, but the way she went about it was like wtf?!
she didnt even have the balls to tell me she was going to wait! we were ordering them online so i was the one in charge of getting all the measurements and money from everyone so things didnt get mixed up with everyone ordering on their own. well everytime i asked for hers she said she didnt get a chance to do them yet or didnt have the money or just coming up with excuses. finally she was the only one left and the guy we were ordering from said he wouldnt send the others until he had them all so i really had to get on her. when she still wouldnt budge i had my Maid/Matron of Honor try. thats when she finally said “oh im not ordering until the wedding is closer!” oh i was pissed!!!
so now we ordered the rest without her and hopefully she doesnt wait too long cause we’ve actually been having a bunch of issues with the dress guy too. but shes been pulling a bunch of other stuff too that has nothing to do with the wedding, just personal stuff, to really piss me off and i cant decide if i want to kick her out or not. plus her husband is one of my fiance’s groomsmen so that makes it even more ackward if i would drop her, if we would still have him. shes been my friend forever and im friends with her parents too which i would still like to invite them all. idk im really confused what to do with it all. and i’ve already got her jewelry for her gift and her bouquet. HELP!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Your wedding date is more than a year away. Honestly, you need to just chill out and avoid making an issue out of something that is a non-issue.
By The Way… if you “kick her out,” as you suggest, you will be effectively ending your friendship and you will still have to see her at your wedding because she is the wife of a groomsman. Tread carefully. And chill out.
Edit: I realize I read your date wrong and take back what I wrote. You are not over reacting at all and do not need to chill. My apologies. I should probably stop posting while hopped up on cough medicine. But still tread carefully, as she will be at your wedding one way or another (groomsman’s wife and all that).
Post # 4
Is your wedding in 2 months?
Post # 5
Well you have to decide if your wedding is more important than a friendship.
Friends will always do stuff to irritate us at some point. A wedding is a stressful time for the bride and sometimes we tend to act irrational.
I would just let it slide. Your wedding is 2 months away
Post # 6
I just noticed I never changed my date on here. It was in May but now its in September. Im just hoping she comes around. I dont want there to be all the bad blood if I do drop her like with her husband and her parents there and I dont want all that drama on my big day.
She kinda did stuff like this when she got married and I was her bridesmaid. She had me looking for places in my area to have the wedding cause neither of them lived around here but this is where they wanted to have it. So i was out all over town and making the calls for her and found a some places then she up and decides to have it where she lived. plus she had me in charge of coordinating the dresses cause i was going to be the Maid/Matron of Honor which i had done. then out of no where she picks some other girl to be Maid/Matron of Honor and picks a whole new dress. It was her wedding so I didnt say anything, but this time is my turn and I’m not letting her pull that kind of bs with me!