Post # 16
You don’t sound like you’re totally cool with eloping, as much as you bring up the pros of it and try to convince yourself that it’ll still be meaningful and beautiful.
That’s okay, everybody is different. If you want all the bells and whistles of a traditional celebration, why not? Plan a simpler one but with all the traditions included. I would love to elope to somewhere far and breathtaking but like you, our families cannot possibly go with us. And I’m the only child in my family, my parents would want to be there when I get married and have all the relatives come and congratulate them and so on. So we’re having a 150 people wedding.
In my area most venues offers all-inclusive packages that takes care of all the food, decorations and most planning and logistics (like you just need your dress, bouquet and transport) so maybe look into that sort of venue instead of an empty hall that requires plenty of work. I also agree with going for a cheaper wedding if you want to invite lots of people, our 150 people include maybe 20 kids so we have kiddy meals for them (which is cheaper and easier) and a more casual venue so that we don’t have kids running around in an ultra posh hotel and make everyone uncomfortable lol.
Post # 17
Thanks for the advices Bees! I was in elopement mode when I wrote this post, especially because of money, I had trouble justifying spending so much on one day when my Fiance didn’t really want this as much as I did.
But we visited some reception halls last week, and he was almost as excited as me! I had planned visits of a few halls, one within budget and one a little over but more beautiful. He choose the more beautiful one (I would have been ok with either one), and seemed excited to create nice memories there 🙂 One of the reason he choose the more beautiful one is because it’s the one that’s going to be easier going back to in a few years and reminiscent the nice memorie of our wedding day! So, unless huge drama or catastrophy arise, I’m pretty set on the big wedding =D and for the bee asking, our wedding is going to be around 100 people!
Post # 18
We had a wedding that was about 150 people. Honestly, if I could re-do it… I would 100% either elope somewhere beachy just him and I… or at least invite like immediate family. Our wedding was good, dont get me wrong… but the stress behind it… and how much we spent, in my opnion just wasnt worth it and I wish we saved that money and used it for our house. When planning our wedding I made sure to gear stuff towards the guests too to make sure it was a great wedding. We hardly got to eat, never even got to eat the cake, we spent time walking around thanking everyone for coming, having the photographer pull us for some pics. Like for how much we spent, we didnt even really get a chance to enjoy it. You hear it a lot and its true. Also it flys by. If you want the wedding go for it, personally I would elope.
Post # 19
That sounds great. I think you will be happy with that. For me, a wedding is about getting married (obviously) but also about celebrating with friends and family. At my 85 person wedding there was so much joy and love coming from everyone around me and we had a killer dance party. I totally get that eloping is for some people, but for me and probably for you it just wouldn’t have been the same.
Post # 20
Thank you!! So sweet of you to say that 🙂