(Closed) Should I elope??

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should have a really small, really intimate destination wedding.  You can go wherever you please and invite whoever you want.  If you just want to invite your dad, so he can walk you down the aisle, that’s fine!  People may be disappointed but they can’t get angry, its YOUR wedding.  Don’t force yourself to do a big traditional wedding for others sake. 

Post # 4
1981 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah, I think having a very tiny wedding might suit you best! I would talk to your dad about it though… see what he says. 🙂 And Fiance too of course!

Post # 6
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Elope – but do it planned and with your dad. 

Post # 7
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

I wanted to elope or have a small wedding but had a larger wedding because that’s what everyone else wanted.  I did not enjoy the planning process (understatement).  I did end up having a really nice time on the day of the wedding and the best part was seeing everyone that I hadn’t seen in a long time.  I think my mom would have been hurt if I had eloped.  However, I also think that our relationship is good enough that she would have gotten over it.  It’s a catch-22 that has equally bad outcomes – you plan a wedding and stress yourself out, or you elope and the people who are hurt cause you stress . . .

All that to say, there will be stress either way, but in the end, it’s the start of your marriage.  You and your fiance are the ones who get to decide how you want to begin!

Post # 9
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree w/ the idea of a destination wedding.  Hope about having a destination wedding and then coming back and having a reception/party a few weeks later.  That way every one is happy and then you can enjoy the after party w/o any of the nervous jitters.  I know you said your dad didn’t want to “burden people” w/ the cost of a destination wedding but someone people will be able to incorporate their vacations in and honestly, if people can’t afford it they won’t attempt to kill their bank accounts if they can’t afford to.  

Post # 10
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just because you decide to “elope” doesn’t mean that no one else can be there. You could elope with as many as 4 people. You; Fiance and 2 witnesses (one being your father.) We went to a wedding that was a little drive away. The only people there were immediate family. (about 15-20 people total) You could totally do that. & if you decide to do a destination wedding; your probably not going to inconvienience anyone; because if they can’t afford it they won’t come. Destination doesn’t have to be far away. It could be as easy as a couple hour drive away. I think you can definatly figure something out here. A big wedding sounds like it’s definatly out; so your down to 2 choices.

Post # 11
1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think a destination wedding would be perfect for you and Fiance. Just parents/siblings/close friends and everyone gets a relaxing vacation! Your father still gets to walk you down the aisle…it’s perfect!

Post # 12
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Would it hurt your dad’s feelings that you didn’t have a traditional ceremony, or is it just that he would want to be there?  If it’s the latter, a planned elopement sounds perfect for you guys!  Invite your dad, your Fi’s parents, and maybe a friend each, then go to the courthouse and out for a nice dinner.  If you want to make it super special for you and your dad, maybe have a lovely breakfast with him, or plan some time out with just him for before the ceremony? 

Post # 14
2530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh I think that a destination beach wedding will be awesome for you! Im pretty sure you can find places that will do most of the planning for you so it is stress free! Tons of brides on weddingbee have done it so Im sure you will have lots of help! GOod luck!

Post # 15
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can elope with your dad there : )


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