- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I have been with my fiancé for 5 years on and off. For most of our relationship, we were long distance but moved in together 5 months ago. Things were new and exciting the first couple of months of living together. The last few months, however, I have started to doubt our relationship. We don’t communicate very well. He can go from 0 to 60 when we fight and then 5 minutes later he is fine and ready to make up. I on the other hand never feel like the issue was resolved and so I am unable to just get over things like he does. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just “get over it”. I also have some serious issues with his family and don’t feel that I get the support or understanding from him that I need. I broke up with him about 2 years ago. We spent some time apart and then started talking again. His sister wrote me a nasty letter saying a lot of rude things and telling me to stay away from him. She told me to stop contacting him and let her deal with him. While I understand her wanting to protect her brother, he is 30 years old and should not have his younger sister trying to control his life. There have been other hurtful things that have happened while around his family and it has just been weighing on me. He is close with his family and expects me to still be around them fro dinners, vacations, etc. I have gotten to the point where I dread being around them. When I bring it up with him, he doesn’t understand why I can’t just let it go and be the bigger person. I thought I could deal with it but being engaged has made me wonder if this is what I want to deal with for the rest of my life. I am not sure what to do. I have a gut feeling that isn’t going away but I don’t want to hurt him again. Has anybody dealt with this? I feel like the guilt is tearing me apart.