Post # 1
My family and best friends live far. Maybe if my mom was alive she would organize one, but she passed away 3 years ago. My friends say that most likely my Future Mother-In-Law (since they live close) will throw one for me but she hasn’t said anything. The Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, so it is kind of logistically impossible for me to have a shower : (
Should I do a registry? or just ignore it… Thanks
Post # 3
Do you want a shower? If you do you need to speak up. Ask your Maid/Matron of Honor if she would like to throw one and mention that she could ask your Future Mother-In-Law for help if she wants to. My Maid/Matron of Honor is organizing my shower with the help of my bridesmaids… do you have any Bridesmaids? Ultimately the shower doesn’t have to be a surprise… and you wouldn’t register for a surprise shower anyway. You sound kind of bummed out about it so if you want one just ask for one. Your Future Mother-In-Law might assume your family or bridesmaids got it under control. And it may have not occured to your MOH/bridesmaids that they are suppose to be organizing it– lets face it, until we are brides we really don’t read all about wedding stuff.
Post # 4
I agree that there is NOTHING wrong with bringing up the idea of a shower with your Maid/Matron of Honor or your Future Mother-In-Law. If it’s important to do you, why shouldn’t you get a shower!? I also see nothing wrong with your sister throwing you a shower. It seems like old, out of date etiquette rules that say your family can’t throw you a shower!
You should definitely do a registry either way so that people know what to get you for wedding gifts, too. Even guests that are out of town can ship gifts to you!
Post # 5
I also wanted to add that my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor live states away… but they are still organizing the shower. They can still call around to get the venue, if they need me to go look at it, I will and take pictures to send to them. They don’t have to live close by to send out and prepare the invites, order a cake etc. Most of it can really be done on the phone. So don’t worry about the fact that they are far away.