Post # 46
RosaBride: your so right.. Right now she is being love bombed as they called it and may believe his excuses and lies. this was.it was moment to anger and non clarity. Unfortunate as it is, I hate she will endure what I also experienced.. She will find out in time.. he is no longer my concern.
Thank you so much love..
Post # 47
louiselc: 🙁 Just be glad that you are done with him!!!
Post # 48
No. She most likely won’t believe you anyway. sadly, I’m in the same position. i feel bad for the gf but she’ll find out sooner or later like I did that he’s a cheating, manipulative peice of shit. This girl will too. Forget about it and move on. He’ll get his one day.
Post # 49
JazzyGirl85: louiselc: It is disappointing that so many people think that she won’t believe you. As someone who dated a master manipulator, I went into the relationship skeptical, but everyone I met gave him positive reviews (not even neutral).
My biggest concern was that he was in a rush to get married. Otherwise, it took a while for me to see how dangerous he was and I wasn’t able to escape before getting majorly hurt.
Post # 50
A few points…
1. How do you know where this girl parks her car? That seems a bit odd, and leaving a note there could come off more as “crazy stalker” than “friendly warning”.
2. I would be utterly humiliated if someone put a note on my car informing me of this. Whether I believed the note or not, I would immediately think about how many other people could have read it before I got there. Why would you want to publically humiliate this girl? It just seems cruel.
3. Like PP says, someone could always remove the note before she finds it, or the wind could blow it away. It’s not fool proof.
That said, I would find another way to tell her. If you know her details on FB, I would take photos of the texts and forward them onto her, or forward them onto her email. Make sure the dates of each message are clearly visible. If you have her phone number, I would forward all of the texts to her directly. Once she gets them, the ball is in her court, and whatever she decides is her call. Whether she believes you or not, that doesn’t matter… you’ve done your bit simply by telling the truth.
Rather than sticking around once you’ve told the truth, I would immediately back off, lest you be painted as the interfering and crazy ex. Share the truth with her, and only with her, and then block numbers and change details etc etc so you can no longer be contacted by either of them. Should she choose to stay with him, this is her call, and you should be prepared to never speak of this again if this is the case.
Having read your updates, I am also now inclined to think that, after you tell the truth and (metaphorically speaking) dump a huge turd in his lap, you should possibly consider changing all of your contact details, deleting as many of your social media accounts as possible, and checking how visible you are on the internet in general…
Post # 51
Relat: I’m sport to hear you experienced this also 🙁 I’m with you, I guess it’s cause we know what it’s like to be with these assholes. The lasting emotional turmol and Picking up our own pieces of ourself. Emotional roller coaster I would never want to anyone to go through.
I know in the beginning I would have loved to been told. I may not have listened (I was love bombed for a year and a half) but the notes would have ran true when the abuse signs started to surface And they were there signs.
thank you for sharing 🙂
Post # 52
KinkyOrange: my ex lives in our house we had together (yes I walked with nothing, he fighting every cent of what financial gain we built together, refusing me to give me my share of what I placed into our home) And that is around the corner from my father. No way of avoiding it, other than seeing my dad when I know he won’t be home.
Your right it is stalker and crazy to place on her car.. No way do I want to humiliate this lady at all. I know it will make me look like a crazy bitter, angry ex And yes Of course I am, this man betrayed me and is implicating me in the betrayal of the new girl. (which now found out is the girl he was seeing in between our short split and on off, in our last year). So in saying that I know she won’t listen, knowing she was on his doorstep as soon as I left him.
i think your right, Changing all is wise. Thing is my business is internet social media based, took years to build followers and regardless he be able to access my business page and comment even if I have blocked him. Unfortunate but FB doesn’t allow at this stage to stop people that blocked commenting on business pages 🙁 hopefully a feature they change in the future.
Thank you so much for your response. I really appreciate it 🙂
Post # 53
I had something similar happen to me, but then I realized he just wasn’t worth my time. It stopped after they became official actually. Also, I have dated multiple guys at the same time without being official and I know those guys were probably dating around too. Once I decided who I wanted to commit myself to, then I stopped seeing the other guys. Just dating is different than a committed and exclusive relationship. He doesn’t owe her anything right now and he can play the field all he wants. If it continued after they become official, then I would say something because that’s actually cheating and she should know.
Post # 54
Since blocking him isn’t working, what about changing your number?
Post # 55
msmousingeeep: yeah I think I might if it continues.. have blocked his number and also social media, spammed all emails that come through. He uses different numbers and different email accounts to contact me.
Post # 56
louiselc: I’ve had to change my number in the past once, usually if you let the phone compay know it’s because of harassmental they won’t charge.