(Closed) Should I expose my ex

• RosaBride
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: May 2016

• JazzyGirl85
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2019

No. She most likely won’t believe you anyway. sadly, I’m in the same position. i feel bad for the gf but she’ll find out sooner or later like I did that he’s a cheating, manipulative peice of shit. This girl will too. Forget about it and move on. He’ll get his one day. 

• Relat
• 5 years ago

My biggest concern was that he was in a rush to get married. Otherwise,  it took a while for me to see how dangerous he was and I wasn’t able to escape before getting majorly hurt. 

• KinkyOrange
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013 - UK

A few points…

1. How do you know where this girl parks her car? That seems a bit odd, and leaving a note there could come off more as “crazy stalker” than “friendly warning”.

2. I would be utterly humiliated if someone put a note on my car informing me of this. Whether I believed the note or not, I would immediately think about how many other people could have read it before I got there. Why would you want to publically humiliate this girl? It just seems cruel.

3. Like PP says, someone could always remove the note before she finds it, or the wind could blow it away. It’s not fool proof.

That said, I would find another way to tell her. If you know her details on FB, I would take photos of the texts and forward them onto her, or forward them onto her email. Make sure the dates of each message are clearly visible. If you have her phone number, I would forward all of the texts to her directly. Once she gets them, the ball is in her court, and whatever she decides is her call. Whether she believes you or not, that doesn’t matter… you’ve done your bit simply by telling the truth.

Rather than sticking around once you’ve told the truth, I would immediately back off, lest you be painted as the interfering and crazy ex. Share the truth with her, and only with her, and then block numbers and change details etc etc so you can no longer be contacted by either of them. Should she choose to stay with him, this is her call, and you should be prepared to never speak of this again if this is the case.

Having read your updates, I am also now inclined to think that, after you tell the truth and (metaphorically speaking) dump a huge turd in his lap, you should possibly consider changing all of your contact details, deleting as many of your social media accounts as possible, and checking how visible you are on the internet in general…

• honeybunchbb
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2017

I had something similar happen to me, but then I realized he just wasn’t worth my time. It stopped after they became official actually. Also, I have dated multiple guys at the same time without being official and I know those guys were probably dating around too. Once I decided who I wanted to commit myself to, then I stopped seeing the other guys. Just dating is different than a committed and exclusive relationship. He doesn’t owe her anything right now and he can play the field all he wants. If it continued after they become official, then I would say something because that’s actually cheating and she should know. 

• msmousingeeep
• 5 years ago

Since blocking him isn’t working, what about changing your number?

• msmousingeeep
• 5 years ago