(Closed) Should I feel bad about this? Bridezilla or reasonable request?

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

sister is hormonal! and PS: you shouldn’t have to deal with all the party stuff- have your other sister talk her off the ledge and wash your hands of it and plan your wedding. they can plan a night out. Don’t stress!  the bride should not have to plan and deal with everybody’s problems, especially for a party she’s not hosting. 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

it’s your wedding!  Your only bachelorette party ever, so you should do what you want.  If that means a fun night out, so be it.  You should not change your plans, your other bridesmaids’ plans and your fiance plans just to do what she wants to do.  That’s not fair to you, your fiance, and all of your other friends.    With that said, you can compromise to accomodate her.   Perhaps, go to dinner and then out dancing.  She can go to the dinner part.   If she had a babysitter to go to Laser Tag, she can have the babysitter for a nigjt out?

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your sister should be supporting you – this isn’t about her and what she wants, it’s about you sharin some quality time with your best girls.

I’m guilty of bein overly nice as well, trust me it will get you no where, you’renot bridezilla at all.  In fact I think you’ve dealt with it brilliantly 🙂 I would have hit the roof if my sister had ruined my surprise like that.

This is the one time its allowed to be all about you!  I reckon she should feel pretty ashamed of herself, but hey as aPP said, its probably hormones.

Concentrate on going out there and havin fun!xxx

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think she’s being a pregozilla! I was in her situation, but if i couldn’t or didnt want to do something due to my pregnancy, i’d say hey i want you to have fun, its your wedding, whatever you want, and i have you have a good time. I didn’t make the bachlorette party because i had a 3 month old who i had to stay home with because my husband worked, and also a 2 year old to deal with. doesn’t sound like your the bitch that the bride i dealt with was. its your wedding, you should be happy, you only do it once, well, hopefully anyways right?

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would say that maybe your sister does not like the traditional bachelorette party idea bc she is pregant/will be nursing/have a young child at the time and feels that she won’t be able to fully participate.  Granted, that doesn’t make her behavior acceptable.  I do not think you acted wrongly at all.  You wanted to make her happy, but you realized that her idea was not your vision.  You can’t make everyone happy all of the time, and to be honest, this is your wedding, and you should get what you want (within reason).  You sound like you are being considerate and trying to include her, but don’t make concessions for things you don’t want just to keep her from complaining.  If she wants to make a big deal out of things and take herself out of the planning, that is her decision.  Although, I would suggest talking to her before completely letting her drop out.  Tell her that you’re hurt by her behavior and ask if she doesn’t feel as if she could particifpate in the traditional bachelorette party.  Then suggest that maybe you two do a spa day the day before/of the bach. party.  Good luck! (and sorry that was long haha…hope it helps!)

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

BM’s should be self-LESS. It’s your event, your day, your hour, your life. Hopefully it was her pregnancy talking and not her.

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