Should I feel bad for not sharing the news yet?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We told my parents and Mother-In-Law 4 days after we found out which was super early. We wanted to keep it to ourselves much longer but Darling Husband had to go away for work for a few weeks and wanted friends nearby to know in case something went wrong. We didn’t want our friends to find out before our parents, hence telling them so early. There are 3 couples of friends who know for the moment, and I know I can count on any of them.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We didn’t even tell parents and siblings until almost 13 weeks. We told our best friends and extended family around 16 weeks, the rest of our friend group around 20 weeks, and didn’t post anything on social media for everyone else to see until after I had my baby shower at 32 weeks. No guilt whatsoever – we are very private people and would have preferred to grieve in private if anything was wrong, and our comfort and peace of mind mattered over everyone else’s potential hurt feelings. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sweetchiquita12 :  I wouldn’t feel guilty at all. You have to do what you are comfortable with. Personally I’ll be telling my 2 best friends as soon as I POAS as well as Darling Husband and both sets of parents (which in turn means all siblings know).

I have friends who waited to tell and selfishly I get a little hurt but it is definitely not about my feelings when someone announces a pregnancy!

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I always thought I would do a cute announcement on Facebook around the 12 week mark… I am 13 weeks now and just don’t have the urge. I have told most family and a few close friends but I am perfectly content with not putting anything on social media.

We may do something around the new year when I will be 18 weeks…

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We told parents, close friends (including work. There’s only 5 of us who work here) between 4 and 8 weeks. Then we shut up and just told extended family at Thanksgiving (12.5 weeks). I was glad we didn’t tell everyone before now because i was in the hospital all of week 11 and didn’t need everyone knowing. We’re planning on announcing on Facebook sometime this week as long as everything checks out ok at the OB today. 

Part of it for us is that we were very open with people about our TTC struggle and infertility. We now have people guessing that we’re pregnant so I’d rather tell people first before it gets out from gossip. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m at 11 weeks and have only told 3 people other than my husband. I’m older so am quite worried about genetic abnormalities which is my main reason not to tell yet, but I also think it’s a personal decision. I don’t think I’ll hold out to 20 weeks but I’m likely to make it more public around 16 weeks or so once my close family know. I know a LOT of people who never announced on Facebook at all, until the day of the birth.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You’re growing the baby, so you get to do this on your own terms. I think that most people will be happy for you whenever you decide to share the news. It’s okay to wait if you’d feel more comfortable annoucing later in pregnancy.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

Don’t feel bad! I want to be at least 12 weeks before we tell anyone. However, I’m going to visit my entire family for a few days over Christmas, at which time I will only be 8 weeks. Then, at 11 weeks, Darling Husband and I are going on a week long vacation with a bunch of friends. All of the women are moms so it will be impossible to hide. 

I want to wait until we are further because I am 39 and want to have a better idea of genetics risks. And I want to….delay the future grandmothers from going completely crazy too soon:)

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, we waited til 14 weeks!

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