(Closed) Should I feel guilty?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4612 posts
Honey bee

I don’t think you did anything wrong by telling your sister. You needed someone to confide in and you were close. Hopefully she’ll be mature enough to keep it to herself.

Post # 4
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

you definately have NOT done anything wrong to feel guilty.

Post # 5
511 posts
Busy bee

You haven’t done anything wrong, but I can imagine the feeling of guilt. To be perfectly honest, if you’ve forgiven him, it may be fair to warn him that others may know. He has no right to get mad at you for it, but if it happens to come out of nowhere that others know, it’d be a bit cruel. 

Post # 6
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You didn’t do anything wrong..you just spoke to someone when you needed to? Just tell your FI that you spoke to your siser about the situation. If it was accidental that he had the escort numbers, he hasn’t got anything to worry about and neither have you.

Post # 7
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would tell your FI that you spoke to your sister just in case she does decide to tell someone, but hopefully she is mature enough to keep that secret, whether you’re are or aren’t on good terms.

Post # 8
1588 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How dare you not be able to see the future and know every single thing that is going to happen!


Seriously, you didn’t know a falling out would happen. Hopefully she won’t be petty about things, but you might want to mention it to your husband “by the way soandso knows, I was really upset at the time.” Just so if she DOES decide to take the low road, he’s aware it could happen.


Unless she is scum of the earth though, she hopefully won’t go blabbling your secrets.

Post # 10
1379 posts
Bumble bee

@unknow123:  Please stop beating yourself up over this!  It is NOT your fault.  Seriously, any woman who found what you did would be super upset and I would’ve done the same as you in telling my sister.  Stop worrying so much about your FI feeling ashamed, he’s a grown man and can take care of himself.  If anything, he definitely should NOT have had a prostitute’s phone number on him in any shape or form to begin with.  Period.  I would tell him that you told your sister and that you’re concerned since you aren’t on good terms she might spill the beans.  But regardless, there is no such thing as secrets in this world – everything will come out eventually. Your FI needs to suck it up and take responsibility for his choice in having a prostitute’s phone number at all.  You should NOT take ownership over his mistakes, even his embarassed feelings if other people find out what happened.

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