Post # 1
Would you be upset if you saw your SO was dancing with their gay friend?
I was at a party last weekend and I was dancing with my gay friend. My fiance was there, he hates dancing so he was hanging out chatting with some of his buddies. I was on the dance floor with my girlfriends and my gay guy friend. He and I were dancing very closely and having a good time. Sometime afterwards a friend made a comment “what does your Fiance think?”. So, I asked my Fiance and he laughed and said “if he wasn’t gay I’d probably want to punch him for dancing with you but since I know him and know he’s gay, I don’t really care. I hate dancing anyway”. Basically, he doesn’t care if I dance with my gay friend any more than with my girlfriends.
But, strangely, after a couple days I’m feeling bad about it. I didn’t at the time and I truly don’t think my Fiance cared either, we live together and I always pick up when he’s acting funny. But now, days later, I’m thinking… is it the same as dancing with my girlfriends sort of suggestively? I never think anything of it when its the girls and it really shouldn’t matter since my gay friend wasn’t making a move on me any more than my girlfriends. So, why do I feel a tad guilty? Just because he’s a guy?
Post # 3
Personally, I would never grind up against a guy whether is is gay or not but if you are just dancing, there isn’t anything to be guilty about.
Post # 4
Don’t worry about it. Your fiancee trusts you, he trusts your friend, and your friend is gay. You wouldn’t have even thought about it unless your other friend brought it up, right? So no, don’t feel guilty, there’s nothing to feel guilty about!
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s anything to feel guilty over – I mean, like you’ve said, none of the three of you mean anything/interpret anything wrong with it. I equate it to dancing with a girl friend, honestly. My Fiance wouldn’t care either. I think it’s alright.
Post # 6
Dancing is not sex. Whether you’re dancing with a girl or a guy, gay or straight, dancing is still just dancing. Sure some types of dancing can practically look like sex with clothes on, and even the most chaste of dances can be more intimate than sex if you’re dancing with the right person in the right frame of mind. In this case, though, I assume you were just having fun. Dancing is about having fun. If you enjoyed yourself and your partner has no problem with it, there’s no reason for you to feel bad about it at all.