(Closed) Should I feel left out?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: would you be upset?
    Yes : (23 votes)
    85 %
    No : (3 votes)
    11 %
    It depend.. (please explain) : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would feel upset, but I think it just depends.

    I have three older sisters and only my middle sister is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor only because my other sister is butch lol and she would kill me if I put her in a dress, and my eldest sister is going through marital problems so I really don’t want to bother her. vice versa.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    Unfortuantely, you can’t please eveyone especially when large families are involved. I’m sorry you and your other sister felt left out – perhaps you could have talked to bride sister and asked if she wanted a reading done or some other job that would have included you two in the wedding? I’m also sorry to hear that this made your grandparents not attend their granddaughter’s wedding :/ That had to be hurtful for your sister.

    Sometimes you just have to compromise. It sounds like a lot of her new husband’s family was in the wedding party, but perhaps your sister really wanted to include the two sisters so she could get a good start with her new family? I know that my Fiance and I are agonizing back and forth with our siblings and friends because we want a smaller wedding party but don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings with who we select. I’m terrified someone will be upset/feel left out, but there’s not a whole lot that can be done.

    I definitely understand your hurt feelings, and I think that you are warranted for feeling that way. But at the same time, the wedding is over and in the past, and I would hope that this won’t spoil your relationship for the future.

    Post # 6
    Member
    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @allieluvs21:  Oh, wow! I had a similar situation with my sister, except she did not choose any of her sisters (me and the youngest sister) to be in her wedding which hurt us both. This especially hurt me since we were extremely close when we were younger and even though we had drifted apart from going to different colleges in different states, I never dreamed we would not be in each other’s weddings. I still went and sucked it up of course because I love my sister, but I remember feeling SO left out of her wedding! For that very reason I am including all my sisters in my bridal party even one who I am not very close to because there is such a large age gap. 

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