Post # 1
My sister recently got married and at first didnt want a bridal party just her and my Future Brother-In-Law, which was fine. but then I get a call a month or 2 before the wedding saying i have to go with her to choose Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses because now I am in the wedding. I said No problem. Then the weekend comes and i go over to my mothers house and say “ok when do we need to go get dresses” she says she changed her mind she’s only going to have my other sister. (background I have 3 sister 4 of us total;) Again i didn’t complain i said ok maybe shes having just one on her side and one on the grooms no biggie. Then during the engagment party which, my sister and I did she says the people in her party are as follows: Maid/Matron of Honor her BFF, Bridesmaid or Best Man – My sister and THE GROOMS 2 SISTER, Bestman: The GROOMS BEST FRIEND and Groomsmen the GROOMS STEPDAD AND HIS 2 BROTHERS! are we seeing a pattern here? My youngest sister and I were upset and I feel we have the right to be, My sister has always been the one to allow whoever she is dating dictate what she does. My family was highly upset with her, my grandmother and father didn’t even attend the wedding. I mean I love my sister dearly and the wedding was beautiful and we had a great time, but i just wish i felt Part of it
Post # 3
I would feel upset, but I think it just depends.
I have three older sisters and only my middle sister is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor only because my other sister is butch lol and she would kill me if I put her in a dress, and my eldest sister is going through marital problems so I really don’t want to bother her. vice versa.
Post # 4
Unfortuantely, you can’t please eveyone especially when large families are involved. I’m sorry you and your other sister felt left out – perhaps you could have talked to bride sister and asked if she wanted a reading done or some other job that would have included you two in the wedding? I’m also sorry to hear that this made your grandparents not attend their granddaughter’s wedding :/ That had to be hurtful for your sister.
Sometimes you just have to compromise. It sounds like a lot of her new husband’s family was in the wedding party, but perhaps your sister really wanted to include the two sisters so she could get a good start with her new family? I know that my Fiance and I are agonizing back and forth with our siblings and friends because we want a smaller wedding party but don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings with who we select. I’m terrified someone will be upset/feel left out, but there’s not a whole lot that can be done.
I definitely understand your hurt feelings, and I think that you are warranted for feeling that way. But at the same time, the wedding is over and in the past, and I would hope that this won’t spoil your relationship for the future.
Post # 5
@MissCalifornia: You are so sweet:) my Sister, BIL and I are close and it hasn’t affected us, but i just wanted to Vent , because my sister who wasn’t apart and I still feel upset about it
Post # 6
@allieluvs21: Oh, wow! I had a similar situation with my sister, except she did not choose any of her sisters (me and the youngest sister) to be in her wedding which hurt us both. This especially hurt me since we were extremely close when we were younger and even though we had drifted apart from going to different colleges in different states, I never dreamed we would not be in each other’s weddings. I still went and sucked it up of course because I love my sister, but I remember feeling SO left out of her wedding! For that very reason I am including all my sisters in my bridal party even one who I am not very close to because there is such a large age gap.