Post # 1
So, My goddaughter will be 13 months old at the time that we get married.
I would very much like for her to be apart of our special day. So I got the idea of getting my aunt ( her mother) to carry her down the isle and throw the flower petals for her or at least help her.
When I asked my aunt she made me feel kinda silly for asking. She said that I should not feel obliged to put her in the wedding just because she as my god daughter.
I don’t feel obliged…I really want her there!
She asked me why I hadn’t thought of my cousins daughter… shes older…
Now I feel really silly and slightly uncomfortable.
Its not like were not close…we’re very close… my wedding dress is hanging in her laundry room right now!
I just don’t understand…. I don’t thinks she wants to do it …. I just feel really silly.
Advice? Is it a silly idea?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s a silly idea at all. Maybe she doesn’t want to go down the aisle with the little one? Could she do it on her own maybe?
Post # 4
I don’t think that was silly at all. Maybe if she doesn’t to carry her down, could one of your bridesmaids of Maid/Matron of Honor, I have seen this a lot.
There is no way you should feel uncomfortable I think you did the right thing.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s silly. My fiance’s nephew (first and only, so far) will be 7 weeks old at our wedding and he’s our ring bearer. His mother (FIs sister) will carry him down the aisle and we’ll pin the rings to his clothes.
Post # 6
Don’t feel silly! There’s no need to. It just sounds like your Aunt doesn’t love the idea. She may also not like the idea of walking down the aisle with her daughter, the center of attention isn’t everyone’s thing. How old is your cousins daughter? Maybe the daughter can help your goddaughter down the aisle, in a wagon or something.
Post # 7
Perhaps she thinks that the older girl would enjoy doing it, while her child wouldn’t really remember the experience.
Flower girl is a HUGE deal to little girls – so I could see how she might think that it would be more fun for the older girl. Also then your Aunt wouldn’t have to walk down the aisle, perhaps SHE feels uncomfortable with this just because she’d have to essentially throw the flower petals and that’s why she suggested your cousins daughter.
Maybe you can have your cousins daughter pull her in a wagon or something (depending on the older girls age) and that way you can have the children without having their parents need to be in the wedding.
Post # 8
i don’t think it sounds silly at all. like others said, your aunt might not to walk down the aisle. or maybe she’s worried that due to the girl’s age, so might cry the whole time.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s silly at all. It sounds like maybe she doesn’t like getting up in front of people so she’s trying to create an out so she doesn’t have to. If you’re close just point blank ask her.
Post # 10
We had our niece, nephews and my cousin in our wedding. Our nephew was 5 months old at the time, so my older nephew who was 5 pulled him in a wagon down the aisle. It was so flipping cute you don’t even know!! Maybe ask your cousin’s daughter to be a flower girl too, that way she can walk your god daughter down the aisle and help her throw petals. I think that would be so cute, and agree that your aunt probably just doesn’t want to be in the spot light
Post # 11
I was going to suggest a wagon as well camrie! I think that is always super cute and u can surround her in flowers! I bet her mom just doesnt feel comfortable walking down the aisle for whatever reason! my 2 daughters are my flower girls ages will be 19 months and 3 yrs. My grandmother is actually going to walk them down holding each hand. I have been to a few weddings where they have sprayed a wagon white and decorated it for a younger flower girl and had it pulled by an old flower girl or a bm. I think its still really really cute! good luck!
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s silly, but the mom probably just didn’t want to participate in that way. I know that I wouldn’t like walking down the aisle with a baby and hoping they did the right thing and didn’t scream or cry. In fact, even if it’s a close family member, i’d probably still find a sitter for my child for the wedding. She’s probably thinking “older child will have a good time, and i won’t have to do all the rehearsal stuff”.
Post # 13
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I don’t think you should feel silly at all, I think it was a really sweet idea
Post # 14
Its a sweet idea. It sounds like the Mom doesn’t want to walk down the aisle and throw flowers.
Post # 15
jenifer espos gave me an idea…if you have a ring bearer, he could try and escort the baby down the aisle, with a wagon or something like that. I think the aunt is kind of against the idea is because she would have to walk down the aisle. I don’t think you’re being silly at all, it seems like you’re closer to your goddaughter than you cousin’s daughter & that’s what the whole point of having the people that you’re close to be there in the wedding party.
Post # 16
maybe she cant afford a dress?? maybe that is why she is suggesting someone else i would def ask her!