(Closed) Should I Fire Him??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t know what else you have going on in your life, so I can’t tell you if you need a planner or not. However, I’d probably get rid of him because I don’t personally see what a planner does that I cannot (not knocking it for others, just explaining my perspective), and I think his comment was really rude. It is your wedding after all, and I think your vision trumps his. IDK though. 🙁 Good luck!

Post # 4
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

WOW!!  That would piss me off so much!  If I were you, I’d fire him.  I wouldn’t be able to get over that.  He’s in a service industry and he should know better!

Post # 5
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d definitely get rid of him. It’s your wedding, your day, and your dollars. Until his design degree can get into your head and figure out what you want, it’s just a useless piece of paper. He has to understand that while you’ll take his suggestions into consideration, his word is not gospel. I’d probably just bring someone else in.

Post # 7
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

He was really rude and I’d be hurt too!  I think give it some time to think about whether you want him or not.  Don’t be afriad to get rid of him if that’s your preference as no one should have to tolerate that sort of rude service.

Post # 8
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would try to meet with him in person and see if we can work out our differences.

I would need a committment from him to treat me respectfully in the future.

There is absoutely no need for tall centerpieces to “fill the void”. After all, no matter how tall the centerpieces are, unless they go right to the ceiling, there is still going to be a void.

If we couldn’t come to a working arrangement, I would ask to meet with his manager to see if someone else was available or if there is  another solution to the problem.

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If it’s included in your package I would want to utilize that, but I think I would talk to the owner/manager of the venue your package is through and let him know about the planners ‘attitude’.  If it didn’t change I would definitly be requesting a new one.  Good luck!

Post # 11
1267 posts
Bumble bee

I work at a private club that hosts weddings for members.  We often have a clash or a difference between the bride/groom and the planner.  If I were you, I would simply write a letter to the manager/exec. director and tell them that you would like another planner, as you don’t seem to be able to bond with this one.  They should bend over backwards to get you another one.  Honestly, if he had done that where I work he would no longer have a job.

Post # 12
4419 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

A void where????  I don’t understand that comment. Completely uncalled for on his part. I probably would have come back with, “have you ever been a bride?”  Every designer has to make his client happy or he’s not a good designer.

I agree with a PP that you should meet with him in person, and if you can’t come to an agreement, then let him go.  But remember, he’s familiar with your venue, and he probably has a lot of vendor contacts that could be valuable to you.

Post # 14
4419 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@flyinpig3:  I figured that’s what he meant, but who cares? No one is going to walk into your reception and say, “OMG, look at that void between the tables and the ceiling! This is the worst reception ever because of that void.”  He needs some perspective of what real receptions are all about. 

I would talk to the venue management about his comment, because they need to know how he is treating their customers.

Post # 15
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Granted this is the extreme of things, but here’s what happened to me when I worked with a venue coordinator who didn’t like my ideas.

She didn’t like that I was DIYing so much including decorations, centerpieces, and flowers because, from what I inferred, we wouldn’t be using her people. Anyway, she ended our meeting with her OFFERING to find someone to do my hair (we were getting married 2.5 hours away), call the band she told us about (wouldn’t give us the info), give the cake lady an idea about what we wanted, tell us the wines and beer the venue could get, and tell the chef our food choices.

Less than 6 weeks before our wedding (planned in 3.5 months); no hair stylist, no band, no cake, no beer or wine list, but the food was taken care of. We tried and tried to call and email her. Nothing. It was awful. Finally, we got her boss to call us after leaving a message for his boss, but the band was no longer available and I didn’t have someone to do my hair.

I loved our wedding, but the stress leading up to it was awful for my husband and I. The big thing for him was the band, beer, and wine. Again, this is the extreme, but it’s like she decided we were below her so she didn’t need to do her job or follow through on her promises.

Post # 16
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

For his sake maybe he was just trying to tell give you the best wedding he could. But he did it in a very ass-hole way. 

He is right, you probably don’t have a design degree. So tell him that you are mad about what he did and that even though he may know more, its YOUR WEDDING! So he can either listen and cooperate, or you will let him go. That might shock him.

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