(Closed) Should I get an appt with someone?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@AcheneMalefic:  I would go ahead and switch OBs and give your new one the straight truth. I work for an OB, and no judgment from me! 🙂 I have pretty much seen and heard everything, and it will be much easier for them to correctly assess your situation given all the information. You have absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of! I don’t think our OB would bat an eye at you telling her that, honestly.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AcheneMalefic:  I got judged at my appointment. Haha. The crazy doc told me that to help with my depression from the mc we had, that Fiance and I should sleep in different rooms until our wedding. And then he added that we should become financially stable and wait three years before TTC. What a quack. He has no clue that we are very financially stable and I felt it was  rude to suggest that we sleep in sep rooms. But I also live in the Bible Belt of Oklahoma. I’m sorry for your loss and I hope it works out for you!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

You will def not feel judged for trying before the wedding. I did! Even though you weren’t doing the whole shebang, if you had 12 months of unprotected sex during your fertile window (which if you truly do every day then you most certainly hit that window) with no healthy pregnancies in sure that would count. 

I would say just try doing at least one, but shoot for three cycles with the whole shebang. because I had 9 cycles of information, pinpointing my problems was easy. It wasn’t a shot in the dark. And it has become really helpful in my IF journey! I’m feeling very optimistic about our current plan 🙂

Post # 6
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

Eta^ I forhot about Maska’s crazy doc, so I should say “you will PROBABLY” [not get judged] or at least hopefully lol mine didn’t!

Post # 7
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4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I didn’t directly get judge, but when i told my md (before i even got engaged) that we were thinking of maybe trying by the end of 2011 she looked at my hand, of course no ring by that time.  She didn’t say anything or gave me any faces either, but just by looking at my hand and seeing no ring said a lot to me.  I do like her very much, she is very nice and always available when i need her, even over the phone.  But don’t worry every md is dif, you wont get judge and def be honest with your md from the beginning, is the best way for them to know how to help you as well.  GL 🙂

Post # 8
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

find a dr you like and go tell the truth

who cares what they think, they are providing a service, if they give opinion or otherwise show judgement, give your money to someone else

a year of unprotected sex is a year of unprotected sex, your uterus doesn’t care if you aren’t married!

Post # 9
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d spend a couple of months charting before going to the doctor. When you go in with your charts, it will give the doctor a lot of additional information about your body and make it easier to diagnose the problem.

Post # 11
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

@AcheneMalefic:  It makes the most sense to start with your next period, but as long as you don’t invest too much into this month’s temps, you can start now. Just be sure that you put in your first day or your last menstrual period so FF knows what CD you are. It can’t hurt to begin to get into the swing of things. Where are you in your cycle now?

Post # 12
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

PS congrats on the wedding! Whoop whoop!

Post # 13
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

hi, a year is a year. . .no matter if you are married or not!

Post # 14
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

Tell your ob/gyn everything straight up. It’s a health professional’s job not to judge you and to make you feel comfortable to tell them anything. Your doctors are there to help you, but they can’t help you unless you are willing to confide in them and express any concerns. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Onime:  I means “not trying not to.”  So, not using protection and just going with the flow to see what happens.

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