(Closed) Should I get counseling?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should I get counseling?
    Yes : (38 votes)
    88 %
    No : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Depends (explain why) : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    1069 posts
    Bumble bee

    Honestly, I think it’s a really good idea. I finally decided to go because I’ve been so stressed out with other things in my life that I wanted to try it out as kind of an outlet. It has really helped! It’s made me realise a lot of things about myself that I didn’t even think about and helped me understand why I feel so hurt about it all.

    Also, I’ve found it’s nice to just to have someone there who is only there to listen to me. I don’t like talking to friends anymore about this stuff because I feel like a broken record.

    Post # 4
    Member
    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MariaW:  you should absolutely get counseling, and maybe even medication if that’s what it takes. A lot of people think that counseling is just for people that are “crazy” or “sick” and that’s just not the case. We all need help sometimes, and there is no shame in that! Do what you need to do to live your best life… And if you need a hand for that, so be it!

     

    As you might imagine I have been in counseling for years. Please feel free to ask if you have any questions.

    Post # 6
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    3246 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @MariaW:  You sound an awful lot like me. I’m also in grad school, and have anxiety problems mostly related to grad school and worrying about getting a job afterwards. I have stress over the job thing particularly because my SO and I have been living in the house he built almost singlehandedly, on land he owns, for a few years. And that’s our home, and will be forever. This sounds fantastic but it is a source of stress for me because it is in a very rural area, in a state where there is kind of a lot of competition for my field. Once I find a job near home, well, it probably won’t really be near unless I SUPER luck out– I will probably have to drive an hour or take 1 3/4 hours one way public transportation for almost anything that’s any good. 

    I am also a chronic worrier about things I can’t control (hello, super stress over grad school stuff, my future job, and the biggest one- WAITING, though thank goodness that last stress has been reduced for me the past couple weeks). I have digestive problems brought on by stress. I go to an acupuncturist and that helps a little, but it seems like I’m often grumpy and stressed out and having to peel myself off the ceiling stress-wise every week. I’ve thought of going to the inexpensive psychological services office at my school, but I can’t really bring myself to do it for some reason.

    I do think that having some therapy would help. And I think it would help you deal with the waiting issues. I take my anxiety out on my SO sometimes too, and that sure isn’t attractive– even though he supports me through everything, I can’t imagine that living with a hypersensitive and anxious partner makes a guy want to marry her all that much. :/

    Blech. I don’t think most people who know me IRL know how anxious I really am, but internally I freak out about everything, and the only people who see that/hear the brunt of it are my SO and my parents. Ugh. So I’m right there with you. HUGS!

    Post # 7
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    1069 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MariaW:  Right now it’s a little bit of both but moreso just stuff about myself. We have started on coping strategies but I’ve only been going for a month and haven’t had a lot of sessions yet so I think we will get to that.

     

     

    Learning about myself has really given me some of the tools that I need to find ways to cope.

    Post # 9
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    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MariaW:  Look for cognitive behavioral therapy. They are trained to help you learn coping strategies and to modify negative behavior.

    Post # 11
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    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MariaW:  I think talking to someone can be wonderfully beneficial for EVERYONE!  I’m a strong advocate of it.

    I have some anxiety issues about pretty much everything, I think it stems from being so painfully Type A in my case.  But yes, I’ve absolutely let my nerves get the best of me and bombarded my very sweet and patient SO with tons of crazy questions, usually the same ones over and over and over.

    Talking to someone has ALWAYS been helpful for me, and your SO will certainly appreciate it:)

    Post # 13
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    3246 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @MariaW:  Aren’t the stress problems wretched? Right now I seem to be unable to get more than 6 hours of sleep a night when I’m at school (it’s 3 hours from my SO’s and my home, so I rent a room here that I stay at during part of the week). And then when I’m home, I sleep A LOT, so I miss a lot of the day. Blah. I think I’m going to go to the health food store today and get some anxiety/sleep remedies.

    @aggiemae:  If you don’t mind, I’d be really curious about the coping strategies thing too. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    3246 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @aggiemae:  Ah, I see that you already made the suggestion. Thanks for sharing.

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