(Closed) Should I get her a wedding gift?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I get her a wedding gift?
    Yes, send a card and a check. : (9 votes)
    17 %
    No, she is being a jerk. : (13 votes)
    25 %
    Just send a card, but no check. : (27 votes)
    51 %
    I wish there were a Doctor Who/X-Files crossover episode. : (4 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    5959 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Unless you were invited tot he wedding I can’t imagine why she would expect anything from you at all.

    Post # 4
    Member
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No invitation? No gift.

    Post # 5
    Member
    934 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @peachacid:  I think if you were feeling generous that you could give her something, but it is definitely not required. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee

    @peachacid:  You don’t have to…..but I would.It would make her think about her decision..:)

    Post # 9
    Member
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I would send a card to be polite and to show that you’re marking the occasion, but I don’t think a gift is necessary when she didn’t invite you. I’m having a tiny wedding and I don’t think anyone will get us gifts, friends or not – when you choose a tiny wedding, you have to realise those things.

    Also, if she’s being kind of snotty, she’ll probably be snotty about it regardless. So let her be snotty over a $2 card rather than a $50 cheque.

    Post # 11
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    that’s super odd!  Was her wedding invites out already when you asked her to be a BM?  

    I’d send a card regardless personally and a small gift.

    Post # 12
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t think she’s being a jerk for not inviting you to her wedding (she’s not obligate to invite anyone, really), but if she doesn’t invite you, she can’t expect a gift.  Send a nice card.  If you feel generous, give her a small gift card for one of the stores on her registry.  

    By the way, if your friendship with her is over, is there any possibility that she’ll be a jerk at your wedding?

    Post # 14
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    8342 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d go the “kill it with kindness” route and get her a gift/card. Worst thing that happens is she doesn’t get you anything in return and looks like a jerk!

    Post # 16
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @peachacid:  Okay, I was just wondering if she would stir up drama at your wedding, especially if you don’t get her a gift.  It might be worth $20 to keep the peace for your day, ya know?

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