(Closed) Should I get her something now?

posted 12 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

oh no- you don’t have to get her anything else.

A gift is not about "look how flashy a present i got you"  its supposed to be something sweet.  And people appreciate the small things, truly we do!  And i know she liked the gift you got her, especially if you saw it up in her house.

Just continue to be a great friend, its really the best gift anyone can give  (oh that sounded so cheesy, but its true)


Post # 4
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with beesknees.  You got her what you could at the time.  It’s not the amount that you spent, it’s the fact that you did something for her, regardless.

Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree too! Your friend loves you and appreciates your gift, but she probably appreciates your friendship more. It also seems like she’s not the type of girl to worry about this kind of thing.

Post # 7
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I don’t think you should get her a belated wedding present.

But if you really want to get her something to acknowledge her generosity and support, get her a ‘for no reason’ present or wait a few more months and get them a ‘1st anniversary’ present.

And again- it doesn’t have to be extravagent, often thoughtful and sentimental gifts are the most cherished.

Post # 8
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

MissStellar, if you’d really like to get her something to show your appreciation for how she’s helping you now with planning your own wedding, than maybe you should. (Is she in your wedding party too?) But I wouldn’t give it to her as an upgrade to her previous wedding gift, you already know she loves what you got her previously. Besides it really is the thought that counts and the meaning behind it, not the pricetag.

Post # 10
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Miss Stellar, I totally feel you, and I’m so glad to see this on the boards!  I make about the same as most of my friends (we’re all in the same, low-paying field) but their guys are all much better off than mine.  So our money is tight.  I feel like a cheapskate every time I buy a $50 wedding present.  (Even worse, I feel terrible when the first thing I think about a shower invite is "Crap!  I can’t afford another present!")

I like the anniversary idea, or a small present to thank her for all her help planning.  It could even be similar to whatever you’re getting your maids. 

Post # 12
1205 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve been there – it sucks.  Get her something heartfelt, just because – and tell her it’s just because she’s so great and deserves it.  How sweet you are to still be thinking about her wedding gift and such. 

Post # 13
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Definitly do not buy her something else. Yes, you may be in a better financial situation now, but you were not then and I’m sure she understands. Just continue to be a good friends and appreciative of whatever she gives/does for you and this will definitly be better than any tangible gift.

Post # 14
278 posts
Helper bee

I know how you feel.

When of my closest friends got married, I wasn’t able to give her a big wedding gift.  I still, to this day, feel guilty for not being able to.  Our friendship has remained to be fabulous, and now that I am able to afford a little more…I’m planning to give her and her husbie an anniversary gift.  It’s not mandatory but I felt like I wanted to give her something thoughtful and heartfelt for being such an awesome friend.

I agree with the comments above, being a great friend is seriously the greatest gift of all!

Post # 15
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I agree with the above commentors – if you do honestly feel like you want to give her a gift, go with a first anniversary gift.  If her first anniversary falls after your wedding, it may seem like you’re trying to "even the score" though (after seeing what she gave you for your wedding) so be sure that it doesn’t come across like that.  I know that it sounds cliche, but it really is the thought that counts.  If your friendship hasn’t been affected (like if she had been angry you only spent X on her wedding gift), then let it go (and hang on to her – she’s a keeper!!)

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