(Closed) Should I get his parents a Christmas gift?

posted 9 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do I buy them something!?
    Yes. : (8 votes)
    40 %
    You should, but it can be impersonal (gift card maybe?) : (4 votes)
    20 %
    Not necessary. : (5 votes)
    25 %
    No way! That would be awkward. : (0 votes)
    Other - see below : (3 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would say get something small.  My now FIL’s got me a small gift basket with lotion etc when my Fiance and I had just started dating.  I think at that point we had only met once for like all of 5 minutes. 

    I would say something maybe a bit more personal than a gift card.  Maybe just a nice bag of coffee or tea?  Maybe a candle or something?  Bottle of Wine in a cute bag?

    Post # 4
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When I first read the post I thought you said you would be going there for Christmas. Sorry, I reread it and saw that he would be meeting your family in December and you would not be meeting his until January.

    I don’t think I would get them a gift for Christmas if you haven’t met them. But I would bring something when I met them in January. Even flowers would make a very nice gesture.

    If you want to get them something you could always send a holiday flower arrangement to the home so it’s not that personal but gives a nice touch.

    Congrats on the upcoming engagement!

    Post # 5
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Hmmm this is a tough one. I would say that you certainly do not HAVE to get them something because you won’t be seeing them near Christmas and they know that you won’t be seeing your bf right before Christmas either, so it would be pretty obvious he’s just putting your name on something. 

    But, if you wanted to send something I’d go with food. Harry and David’s Moose Munch, a bottle of wine, etc. 

    Post # 6
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My FIL’s are hard to shop for so I usually do a gift basket. Last year I did a coffee gift basket with different coffees and 2 mugs, year before I did a local food basket that had homemade maple syrup, locally made pancake and muffin mix. This year…back to the coffee basket.

    Post # 7
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I agree with CorgiTales. Bring them a small something when you “re-meet” them in Jan. It does not need to be bing, a bottle of wine would be just fine.

    Post # 8
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would wrap and take SOMETHING (even if it’s a nice coffee or something from starbucks or a gift card to Borders or B&N) when you meet them in January. Wrap it in Christmas paper and explain that you thought it would mean more coming from you than being shipped. Or maybe buy them a little special something from where you are currently (in China) and bring it back with you – I would think that’d mean a lot to his parents, having something from overseas that you thought beforehand to bring back for them. Just a thought.


    Post # 10
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    What about a basket with some cheeses and crackers?

    lol…yeah, at some point you should exchange christmas gifts with your so’s parents. Soon, you can just get them a gift from the two of you =]

    We got my mom and his mom a digital photo frame

    do they like to cook? what about some chinese seasonings? Mmmmm you can just get me some, lol

    Post # 11
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If i remember right, the first Christmas I had with my Future In-Laws, i brought them a poinsetta plant and a bottle of wine. They actually surprised me with a Christmas present- a feather pillow and pillow covers. Errrmmm….it really threw me off. Heh. I would say bring them flowers when you meet them! Does his father smoke? Maybe a good cigar? If you look you might even be able to find cuban cigars in China (since they’re trade partners). Or a small gift basket of food with the flowers might be nice too.

    Post # 12
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Last holiday season, before I had ever met my Future In-Laws, I wanted to send them something nice, not too personal, but something that was uniquely Texan. I ended up sending them a couple of fruitcakes from the famous Collins Street Bakery in Corsicana. I knew Fiance would be spending the holidays there so he could enjoy it as well. It was a hit with the whole family–more of a family gift than a gift just to the parents, so not too personal, you know?

    (I know, fruitcake, yuck! But they like it and it’s pretty commonly eaten there, and these are supposed to be really good fruitcakes. Who knew there was such a thing?)

    This year, I am sending each of his parents a small gift, along with a photobook with lots of pictures of Fiance and a few of us together. I’m also sending fruitcake again as a family gift.

    I do think something unique from China would be a nice gift, I think the tea is a lovely idea. Maybe a different variety this time? Perhaps with one of those neat little Chinese teapots, and a strainer for the loose leaves? What about some kind of regional specialty alcohol? (But maybe they don’t drink, either.) Fruit or preserves of some kind (if allowed by Customs?) It’s so hard when you know little to nothing about them and their tastes, I know. Good luck with whatever you decide!

    Post # 14
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think a floral arrangement would be just enough – personal but not too personal, pretty and appropriate without being all “hi-I’m-trying-to-impress-you-please-take-this-as-a-token-of-my-esteem”.

    And hey, if they like it it can become a signature gift in the years to come! A couple years down the road wouldn’t  you love to over-hear your Future Mother-In-Law say, “Oh, she’s such a lovely girl… She always sends the most beautiful arrangements to us for the holidays. She’s so thoughtful!”

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