(Closed) Should I get rid of a bridesmaid?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

How does your fiance’s family feel about her right now?  I agree that she doesn’t sound like a person I would want to support me as I begin my new marriage.  If your fiance’s family is already pretty pissed about the situation, I don’t think anyone would judge you if you asked her to step down.  A lot of people think that when you ask someone to be a bridesmaid you are stuck with them, but when something this big happens I think you can make an exception.  If I were you, I would explain that you and your fiance don’t feel comfortable with her being a bridesmaid considering the circumstances.  Does she know that you are all upset with how she is acting?  If not, you should probably explain to her that her behavior is not acceptable with how you hope to live your life.  If you do decide to ask her to step down, I would wait a bit before asking your step-sister so it doesn’t look like you just wanted a reason to have her instead.  

Post # 5
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would probably ask her to step down as well. Marriage is not a joke. And a bridesmaid is not only a friend, or a witness to your marriage. But she/he is supposed to stand by you during your years of marriage to remind you of your vows (that you should take seriously)! I don’t think I would want a woman like that to remind me of my vows when she can’t even honor her own. I especially would not want to take advice from her. I think it’s something you and your Fiance should do together though. If that’s at all possible.

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