Post # 1
We are a family of three, myself, my FH, and our 3 yr old daughter. Our lab is old and doesnt play with our daughter at all. She would throw toys at him and he would just lay there so.. we got a puppy! Red/blue tick coonhound. (I wanted a small dog, FH won and we got a big one). We have only had her about 2-3 months. She is 6-7 months old now and just went into heat. With my daughters birthday party next weekend, my bridal shower at the end of july, and wedding in october I can honestly say I do not want to fork out $300 (yes, that is what the vet told me!) to have this puppy spayed. In the beginning she did snap and growl at my daughter and I was really upset and wanted to give her away but FH and others said oh just work with her. Well I have and she tollerates our daughter much better now. She still continues to go to the bathroom on the floor almost every day which I just feel she should be trained by now. She does not tell us when she needs to go out, but is usually outside playing with our other dog anyway. Sometimes at night she chews my daughters toys too which is a new thing actually because she didnt do this when we first got her. And the next new thing.. our pets have fleas!! So now I’m washing two dogs and a cat. What a pain. Ive become impatient and angry with the dog and sometimes lock her right in her kennel but other days love her dearly. However, I wanted a pup who I could take in my car with me and do things with and call it “my dog”. She does not walk well on a leash at all and in the car does not sit still. I have already said once I was getting rid of the dog and cried all day over it because I knew I really didnt want to do it. I’m so worried that our 3 yaer old will be heartbroke and will wonder where the puppy went and ask or cry for her for days. When our daughter was a baby my FH came home with a puppy who lasted maybe a month and we ended up giving it to a friend. I just didn’t have the time. I thought I would have time now as a stay at home Mom but turns out maybe I’m just not a dog person? So.. what would you do?
Post # 3
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Post # 4
Hard to say specifically, I’m totally a dog person, so those problems (which all came up with one or both of my dogs) were things I was fine with tackling. If you personally do not want to or have the time to deal with a pet and your family doesn’t want to pick up the slack then it’s only fair to the animal to give her a chance at a home that has that time and devotion for her.
also, there are clinics around here that do like ‘tuesday spay day’ kind of things were getting pets fixed is super cheap! Just something to keep in mind if the cost is the biggest issue.
Post # 5
Spay the dog and take her to obedience. Get your dogs on flea meds. Spend the money necessary to become a responsible pet owner and you will be rewarded.
Post # 6
Getting a new dog is tough – it takes a lot of work, dedication and training for both you and the dog. It takes time before you will see the results, and the puppy is still a puppy. So, until you get her trained and until she matures a little bit more, it’s going to be a little bit of a struggle. But it is worth it in the end – I have two giant dogs and one of them has severe behavior issues, but I still love them and I would never get rid of them.
I hate to sound rude, but if you are thinking of getting rid of a 2nd dog, then maybe you should not get any at all. Dogs are work, and they need attention, similar to children. Yes they are cute, but if you’re going to get one, then realize it’s too much work for you, just to give it away… again… then take a step back and wait until you are really ready. There are way too many puppies and dogs who end up in shelters or on the street because owners change their mind.
Post # 7
Well…perhaps you should’ve thought this out before you took on another animal. When you did that, you were saying that you’re willing to put forth the time, energy, money, etc. to train and care for your dog. And part of this is to get her spayed and start training her. She isn’t going to be the “perfect” dog right away.
I understand that you’re busy with wedding stuff and life, but if you’re not willing to contribute to this puppy’s well-being, then you probably should give her away, and carefully consider the next addition to your family before leaping into it.
Post # 8
quick, quick – close the topic!!!
Post # 9
Thats exactly what I thought after I read it!
All I’m going to say is that maybe you should look into an Animal Aid or something of the like in your area. It is $69 dollars to get a 50 pound dog spayed at the one in my town. MUCH cheaper than everywhere else. If you really want to keep it, you can make it work. Even if you get a small dog, you’re going to have the same issues with potty training, spaying, and possible temporal issues.
Post # 10
Do people give away their children when they don’t behave the way they want? No sarcasm intended, serious question. You should take your puppy to some training classes before you give up.
Post # 11
Please no negative feedback. By all means I do take very good care of my pets. I’m just trying to make a decision that is best for the puppy and my family. I guess my desire was to have a pet to hold, to take places, and do a lot more with but considering the size of the dog we have chosen its just not working out. I’m not able to push a stroller and train a puppy on a leash at the same time. I have been looking into clinics for some time now (reason why she hasn’t gotten fixed) unfortunetly there is nothing in our area under a 2 hour drive. My biggest thing about that was shes already not the greatest in the car and I feel bad making her sit there in the car for such a long time after surgery. I guess I’d feel differently if she was a bit more behaved. I currently have friends looking also for cheaper spay neuter clinics but in the mean time, she’s gone in heat. Oh I deffinately do feel terrible 🙁
Post # 12
You obviously are overwhelmed and maybe weren’t ready to deal with a hard headed upu (hounds in general can be quite stubborn and hard to train). But you’ve gotten yourself into this and now you’ve gotten attached, the only thing you can do is move forward.
FIRST look into low cost spay and neuter programs, you DO NOT need one problem pup turning into 8! There are other options, you just need to do the work.
SECOND look into some training courses. You may have had it easy with your lab (or forgot how much work it was to actually train a dog), some classes are as low as $50, which I would think for your sanity would be worth every penny. Look around, call shelters and ASK.
I’m sorry but there is going to be no easy way out of this, it is going to take work and dedication… Dogs aren’t born knowing how to be “good dogs”.
IF after all of that you still feel you can’t handle it, I would consider finding a breed rescue that would take her. I suggest breed rescues because they know the breed and then people who are LOOKING for that kind of dog will know what they are getting themselves into. Otherwise look for a no kill shelter. I don’t suggest you give the dog away yourself, you might just give her to anyone trying to spare your sanity and it might not be an ideal home. (I worked at a no kill shelter for 2 years, so I’ve seen a lot of dogs given up because they just need a little training and attention).
Just my two cents.
ETA: Go to your vet today and get frontline for your animals. Fleas are the easiest things to take care of… You might want to also buy heartgard (or advantage multi instead of both) to protect your animals from heartworms. It’s so easy and inexpensive to prevent, and really hard and expensive to treat. Seriously, fleas shouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 14
@CountryBee: “I do take very good care of my pets”
What you’ve told us says very differently. You’ve already gotten rid of one puppy because you didn’t think through the work and responsibility and now you’ve gotten a second puppy that you now want to get rid of.
You don’t want to spay your puppy, you shut it in the kennel because you are angry/upset (the dog has no comprehension of why he’s being shut away), you didn’t give your pets flea/tick prevention so now they have fleas, etc.
“my desire was to have a pet to hold, to take places, and do a lot more with”
Honestly, you’re treating pets like toys which they are not. They are living creatures that require work, money, and responsibilty. Training take time and dedication.
Post # 15
Have you looked around for clinics that offer neutering for less? If it’s too expensive, I would look around for another vet and get some second opinions.
I do think that you should have thought of this before adopting another dog. Puppies are harder to take care of but I think you need to give your pup some more patience and stick with her.
It will work out in the end.
I think you should really reconsider giving her up just because it’s not working. She is a dog! Dog’s have feelings, too!
Post # 16
I tried to lay it out there as nicely as possible… luckily working in a shelter has taught me restraint… You have no idea how many times I wanted to yell at people for bringing their animals to give up because they are going on vacation! People are ridiculous, but some are just uneducated on what it takes to raise an animal… So I like to give them the benefit of the doubt.
That said, if I can have a well behaved deaf dog that knows over 15 hand signals (note, I am not a dog trainer or have prior experience with deaf dogs) then I’m pretty sure anyone can have a moderately trained dog. You just have to put in the effort. Just sayin.