(Closed) Should I give this gift to step daughter at wedding, or alone with her?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@freshflowers:  The notion is nice, but the truth is you are NOT mother and daughter. You are her father’s wife. Being a parental figure other than mother or father is something the child determines, not something you become just because you marry their parent. So instead of approaching it from a mother/daughter standpoint, why not say that it’s something all little girls have in the family?

Post # 18
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that is the sweetest tradition!! I also think that it is wonderful that you want to start it with your stepdaughter. You are going to be a great stepmom. 🙂 

I would chat with your Fiance about how to approach it, but I think giving it to her privately may be best. It would suck to hurt her mom’s feelings and have her not see how special the bracelet is orr have FI’s family get upset and ruin the sentiment of the gift.

Post # 19
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would do it privately.

I think it’s more comfortable for your step-daughter. Personally, I hate opening presents in front of of a bunch of people. It turns it into a show. It sounds like a lovely tradition that should be personal to you two.

Post # 20
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Privately. I agree with PP- after the rehearsal dinner, or morning of. I would also change the meaning from “now we’re mother and daughter” to “now we’re family.”

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