- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
My wonderful Fiance is on his birthday vacation this weekend, and I had plans to go to a bar with one of my guy friends. He said he had to go because it was this girl’s birthday, but he was just going to hang out with our normal group of friends all night anyway. I said yes, but then I saw on his fb page that the birthday girl is my FI’s ex. She and I have never had a problem. We ran into her on our first date (awkward!), but I haven’t seen her since. The relationship seems to have ended amicably enough.
With that said, I told him that I felt like it might be a little rude for me to crash, even though it isn’t in a private area or anything and it’s an open invitation. I just didn’t want to bring any unnecessary awkwardness to her special day.
My Future Mother-In-Law and I have had a couple issues in the past few months, and not even an hour after I told my friend I’d rather not go, I saw on FMIL’s fb page that she had the ex over to hang out by the pool on my FI’s birthday! I know it seems silly, but I’m a little offended. I used to hang out with Future Mother-In-Law by the pool all the time but now that she’s mad she calls the ex in to take my place?
So, since the ex is apparently “part of the family” again, should I go? I am not confrontational and I would never say something to her about it (unprovoked), but I feel like she needs to know that I’m still here and I’m not going anywhere. Plus, I just really want to hang out with my friends 🙂