(Closed) Should i go or not

posted 11 years ago in Toledo, Ohio
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My initial thought was that she didn’t send you invite because you are her brothers girlfriend, obviously you would be his date. I wouldn’t send a invite to my sisters boyfriend, i would assume that she would bring him.  Is there bad tension with you two?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with sunnygal.. I would think that she just assumed that you would be coming with him and no invitation was necessary. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It doesn’t seem odd to me that you were not a part of the wedding party as most brides choose to put either siblings or close friends as bridesmaids/hostesses. It also doesn’t seem odd to me that you didn’t receive an invitation since you would be included on the invitation that your boyfriend received. I think you are making a big deal out of nothing. I don’t see anything here that looked like it was intended to insult you or leave you out, this just looks like normal wedding etiquette to me. I say go and have a good time.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I tend to agree with Sunny – perhaps she only sent one to your Fiance because she assumed he would bring you too? I would talk to him and find out if there was an ‘and guest’ or whatever on the invite just to make sure there is a place for you (and food!). If not, you should probably have him talk to her and find out what the deal is. 🙂

-Bella

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It would only reflect well on you to go! Refusing may cause strain between you and your boyfriend. Plus, it could create a sore issue in the long run with a potential sister-in-law. 🙂 I agree with the ladies above me–go and have a great time!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@sunnygal: Completely agreed on that. She would be cosidered as the guest as was my brother now FI!!! And she was not offended even after a death in her immediated family of someone close ase and and young, she even replied back for him, I would have to if it was me. I also would go to that wedding ….

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

yeahhhhh, I think your making it kinda a big deal about it girl! Just go please. Like yI told sunnygal, I didnt send invites to each person in the household~ way too many paper wasted. I sent one to each household and addressed by my family or FI’s family. I may have used to mr. Brother AND family but I am thoughtful like that 🙂 but if your bf got one  your are implied sweat heart dont take it personall pleaaaaaaze. Go have fun, eat dring have a good time and know that your bf will and hsould put you as a PLUS ONE as my brothers Fiance did on brothers invite! Good luck btw

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Go. Have fun. Be merry. Smile and enjoy it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

He’s your Boyfriend or Best Friend not your Fiance and you’ve been dating 9 mths; why would you think you would actually be a part of the wedding? I’m sorry but most brides pick their best friends/family or people they’ve known for years. You probably didn’t get a seperate invitation bc as PP stated, she assumed you as her brothers guest. Did he get an invite? If so was it addressed “Brother & Guest”? You’re really making a big deal out of nothing and if you don’t attend will reflect poorly on you and your attitude.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Holy crap batman! Just realized this post was over a year old! Why in the world was it brought back up? I think advice here is a moot point…

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OOPS

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