Post # 92
@whfields I think that it evolved into something mean because of how the Original poster handled it. It started as opinions but once she made it clear that she doesn’t care for opinions anyway it became mean. And I think she earned it.
@OP You clearly only posted to find someone to back you up on a decision that you had already made. If you want to be selfish that’s your call, but don’t expect everyone’s hugs and sympathy. Nobody needs a whole week for their birthday! And even if you think that you do need a week, his wedding is a day. Given that you haven’t seen him in 20 years I’m guessing that you’ve already had lots of birthdays, so missing a one should not be the end of the world.
Post # 93
Sorry Mr.Bee; I knew My post was a little out of line; but sometimes I can’t believe the way some people think.
This seems like it has nothing really to do with the brother and it seems to be “all about me” type situation. I honestly think the brother would be better off without someone there who obviously has no intention of enjoying the event. I feel that you should only attend a wedding if you have love and support for the couple. There seems to be none here.
Post # 94
I realize that some of you (EDIT: most posters on this thread) disagree with the OP. That is fine. A post saying: “You should go to the wedding” is fine. However, using personal attacks (I don’t even know how MANY of you I could tag here for using the term “selfish”) is NEVER OK ON WEDDINGBEE! We do not approve of that here! So please, if you’re going to post further on this thread, simply agree or disagree with the OP. All posts with personal attacks will be DELETED.
Post # 95
the decision is totally up to you but I would go to the wedding. You can celebrate your birthday there with your family. Also, I would really miss my sibling being at my wedding if it was the reverse.
Post # 96
If you’re sure you don’t want to go, then don’t. You asked us what we would do, and we told you. I’ve been to weddings for family members I’d only met a couple of times to support them. If you want to go out with your friends instead, go for it if you will be happy.
@MightySapphire-I agree. I think this is getting too heated.