- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
This is very long, I’m sorry! I cannot decide what to do here.
A girlfriend of mine was a bridesmaid for me when I got married in 2011. She hosted my bachelorette party at her father’s condo. It was a lot of fun and we stayed there overnight.
I paid for everything for my bridesmaids – hair, makeup, dresses, gifts… over $700 each. On the day of my wedding, she showed up without the belt that went with the bridesmaid dresses. She said she didn’t like it, didn’t get it altered. I was shocked. I paid a lot of extra money for these belts, and she would be the only one without it. It was the thing that tied my mix-matched maids together.
Anyhow, the day of my wedding she was on her phone texting the whole time we were getting ready. I felt like she didn’t care. Later in the day she told me a member of my family was a nut job. It turns out, she did not give me a gift. She did not give me a card. Also, I was shocked, because previously she had said she was going to give me cash, because it was tacky to bring a physical gift.
Well, we haven’t spoken too much since my wedding, and I never received a card or anything. Now she is engaged and getting married. I was not invited to be a bridesmaid. That’s fine, but I wish she would have acknowledged it. Said something like, “Sorry I couldn’t include you, there was no space.” I dont know.. something!
Over the summer when she had a party and I RSVP’d, she told me there was no more space. A few months ago she emailed me out of nowhere asking for a big favor from my husband. My husband and I argued over it, and eventually he told me that he would not help her since she did not treat me well. I told her I couldn’t do it, and didn’t hear from her again. That hurt my feelings too.
Well, now her BMs are throwing her an overnight bachelorette party and invited me. I feel really torn. I do not like the girls that are going, and feel like there is very little friendship left between us. The girls going are all very well-to-do, and in my opinion snobby & pretentious. One of them previously told me I was making a mistake by being with my Fiance…right after talking about how she spent 4K on a Chanel purse. If I go, I cannot imagine having a good time because these other ladies are not my kind of friends. I also feel I should go because she hosted my bachelorette party. It’s not like I have a million friends… maybe I should step out of my comfort zone.
What would you do???
(I made paragraphs, but they’re not there!)