Post # 1
Hi all! I’m getting married June 20, 2015 which is a year and four months from now. My fiancé and I live overseas and will until july of this year; and i have no intention of buying a dress here – but i do want to go and try things on to see what shapes/materials i like. is that silly/shady of me? for those of you who did this, how did you resist the push of the salons? i have friends here who think this is a great idea and i’d love to have that experience, but i want to be sure that i’m not making a mistake.
I always thought that I had tons of time to get a dress, but recently I’ve had friends tell me stories of going to salons 7, 8, 9 months ahead of time only to be told that x, y and z designers won’t come in time! we are getting married in canada, and things that may take 6 months to arrive in the US can take much longer (and be more expensive and have large rush/customs fees) in Canada. By the time i’m back in Canada it will be 11 months until our wedding, and to make things more complicated, we will likely spend 3 or 4 months on the west coast with my fiancé’s family (who i don’t want to shop with) before going back to central canada (my hometown) so i don’t feel that i can wait until 7 months before to start the entire process of buying a dress.
to add to this whole mess, i will likely get two dresses, and i’m totally open to having a dress (or two) made – by carabridal or jasmine’s or another dressmaker who crafts the ‘salon label’ for a family friend’s bridal salon. so in that case, should i try on the vera wang and monique lhullier dresses i’m eyeing to have made, even though i would never pay the 10,000 price tag?
I guess my feeling is that if i do some legwork in the next 4 or 5 months, then when i get to canada, i can hopefully hit the ground running knowing exactly what i want so i can order quickly. my mum will not be upset i didn’t wait for her, i’ll either take her with me later, or we’ll do a special fitting etc and my best friend at home totally understands the time issues.
oh my, this is all over the place! anyone who read the whole thing and weighs in should reward themselves with a cookie!
Post # 3
@peonyinlove: Congrats first of all, and it’s not too early to try stuff on! It’s a good idea to see what styles you like and what flatters your body shape. You could be gung-ho for a mermaid dress, and end up falling in love with a ballgown instead. 🙂
Post # 4
I am getting married this July but bought my dress January of last year. Go and shop and love every moment of it! I found the perfect dress and thankfully I had enough time to absorb that cost becuase it was a bit on the pricier side but gave me enough time till we needed to start paying for wedding costs. I also started alterations on the earlier side, November and looks like I have my final fitting next month. Definitely give enough time for alterations too!
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s too early at all! I’m going this Tuesday for the first time and we’re getting married July 25, 2015. Honestly I’m just proud I waited this long (we’ve been engaged since September)! Have fun!!
Post # 6
@peonyinlove: definitely start trying things on now, even though you will buy in Canada. It took me several months to find a dress I loved – the ones I loved in pics I hated on my body. It’s possible some of the places you shop overseas will carry brands that you can get in Canada…maybe find your dress there and then locate a shop near or in your hometown that can order it for you before you’re home. (if you find one you absolutely adore!)
Post # 7
thank you! yeah, i’m definitely anticipating that what i like on others might not look the best on me. i’m quite petite, so i know that might be a challenge as well!
that’s a really good point – i hadn’t considered that! thanks 🙂
yeah – i’m quite decisive when i find what i like – BUT i’m particular, so i think it might take me a while.
awesome – thanks for the tips ladies! we’re living in england at the moment, so my friends here have proposed a day out in london for bridal gown shopping and afternoon tea – i think that sounds PERFECT! vera wang london, here i come 🙂
Post # 8
I would definitely just go and try stuff on to get an idea of what style you want. I went dress shopping about a year before my wedding to a bridal shop that was closing – I just wanted to browse and try things on to see what I liked and ended up buying my dress that day off the rack! I think 11 months is fine to get a dress, and at least if you go shopping now you’ll probably know exactly what you want in a dress when you start shopping in Canada.
Post # 9
i got my dress before we even set a date! and i ended up taking it home with me 1 year and half before our wedding, and have no regrets. the salons will tell you general guidelines of when they recommend shopping, but you can go whenever works for you 🙂
Post # 10
thanks! i’m getting excited 🙂
Post # 11
I bought my dress in July, it just arrived now and I’m getting married in May. So bought 10 months ahead and arrived in 6 months with 4 to go? The bridal salon recommended that I do my alterations early in May so I won’t change size by game time.
Before I went dress shopping for real with my mom and sisters, I went out once my own to narrow down which styles were flattering. Basically by the end of that appointment I knew I liked drop waist/fit & flare/trumpets but not full mermaids, I knew I wanted ruching and some kind of embellishment but was back and forth on lace or bling. Then I bought my dress in the first store that I went to when I went shopping with my family! Mom cried, it was an easy choice, haha. It was definitely easier to shop with purpose when I had styles in mind already rather than getting confused by “but the ballgown is pretty…and so is the mermaid…and that sheath with the keyhole back was so cool…waaaah I don’t even know what I want!!”
Dress shopping has been my fav part of wedding planning so far – so much fun!
Post # 12
this is perfect – that is exactly what i’m hoping for 🙂
Post # 13
go and have fun! and i wouldn’t worry too much about shopping without intention to buy–i think it’s part of the business that many customers at a salon don’t end up buying there.
Post # 14
okay good! i’m nervous they’ll be able to tell – but then, that’s their job so i shouldn’t feel bad!
Post # 15
You should definitely go! I don’t think there is anything wrong with going early to get an idea of what you like / dislike, etc. I also think you should feel comfortable trying on any dress you want, regardless of whether you intend to buy it. That’s what they are there for, right?
I hope you share pics!
Post # 16
I’m getting married June 5, 2015 and I already tried on dresses once (back in July). I’m really glad I did because there are soo many styles of gowns and so much to choose from. I definitely need a few trips to bridal salons to narrow down exactly what I want. Plus, it’s fun :]