Should I have a rehearsal and should I have my officiant there?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We had a church wedding and we invited our priest to our rehearsal dinner and to our weddding reception.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I think it would be helpful to walk-through things with her, whether verbally a few weeks beforehand or actually going through the motions right before the wedding. Even with a low key wedding, it can be helpful to know what to expect. In the end, you’re standing up in front of a bunch of people doing things that you wouldn’t normally do, so having a chance to practice can calm the jitters.

Some things that I found were really helpful for our rehearsal was knowing where my bouquet would go, knowing when the rings would be passed out and to whom (will your FI’s BF give them both to you at the same time? one at a time?), knowing who would be holding my vows (since I didn’t have a pocket) and then who would take my vows when I was done with them, as well as just simple things like where to stand so that we weren’t crowding the officiant. We had a few more ceremony elements and a bridal party, but it just helped everything come together.

These are all minor details, but without discussing them first they can be a bit fumbly and awkward. Not the end of the world, just something to think about.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2020

My sister married last year and was so thankful to do a rehearsal beforehand.  She was so nervous her wedding day just before the ceremony, her Maid of Honor, along with Officiant organized everyone and lined everyone up.  Because of the rehearsal everyone walked well down the aisle together and as soon as she began to walk, she realized she began to get more calm and was so grateful to her bridal party that everything went along seamlessly.  Even the children were perfect, walking the step-pause-step in sync.  

You needn’t bring the person marrying you to the rehearsal dinner, unless of course, you feel that person is so wonderful, you want to share that moment.  But there is no obligation unless, of course, it is a Pastor from your church that you grew up with or a Rabbi from your temple.   

Have two songs – one for the parents/bridal party and then another one for you.  The songs should not be too fast, but a good medium tempo – something that feels like a march.  Best!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Our wedding was more formal, but I found it super helpful to have a rehearsal with an officiant for a number of logistical reasons (what side does everyone stand on? how far apart do we all stand? where does my bouquet go? what do we do with the rings?). I had never been in a wedding before, so there are a ton of little details I never even thought of. If we hadn’t practiced first our ceremony would have been more clumsy and awkward. 

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