(Closed) Should i have a “special Talk” with my sister-in-law-to-be?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think she’d really like that 🙂

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think she would like it. I know I would. My FIs sisters have been very nice to me, but I haven’t really felt “embraced” by them. I still feel that they see me as an outsider in their family, which is ok-I get it. My FIs SILs (his brothers wives) have been very welcoming, and warm and treat me like a comrade, or like a sister. I just feel more comfortable with them. I hope that eventually I will feel that way with his sisters as well.

Post # 6
48 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012 - Patrick C. Haley Mansion, Joliet, IL

Um… yeah. My brother and I are both engaged and I personally feel it would be really awkward to push forward a relationship that really isn’t there. If it blooms organically, that’s cool. But what if she doesn’t agree about the closeness you desire? There’s no reaction she can have other than saying yes that doesn’t come off really terribly.

My brother’s fiancee asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and she and I are not close at all. I like her, but we just never clicked. So I said no. But then I had to deal with all our family’s judgement after that. I felt like she could have <b><i>not</i></b> asked me because everyone else she asked were her close friends.

Perhaps you’re closer to her already than this post suggests though.

Post # 7
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think thats a great idea. I would do the same with my brother and his now Girlfriend if and when they decide to marry. me and my sisters would most lkely give her a talk as well, Maybe one of the reasons is becuse werre ehhh  ok with her.. she thinks ccuz shes stacked with money shes the It. lol, but yes, i think she will feel welcome and if theres any tension between you two, then it would break it 🙂


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