Post # 1
So I was sitting here mulling over my brother’s wedding next saturday and came up with an interesting idea. Since i only have one sibling, and that being a brother, I have always wished i had a sister of my own, so that got me to thinking about how i am excited to see what this new relationship brings to not only my brothers life, but my whole family’s life. And I thought of pulling her aside(which wont be difficult since i am doing her makeup) the week before her wedding to talk about her being the new addition to our family, and that my hope for the two of us girls is to be like sisters…
that said i have not been overly close with her over the last 3 years that they have been together, and there have been many times that i have not liked her..(but not openly so…hope that makes since). But in truth i do like her most the time, and i am on great terms with her.
Anyways i was hoping you ladies would have some good insight for me as to whether or not i should put myself out there to start off our new in-law relationship on the right foot,
Post # 3
I think she’d really like that 🙂
Post # 4
I think she would like it. I know I would. My FIs sisters have been very nice to me, but I haven’t really felt “embraced” by them. I still feel that they see me as an outsider in their family, which is ok-I get it. My FIs SILs (his brothers wives) have been very welcoming, and warm and treat me like a comrade, or like a sister. I just feel more comfortable with them. I hope that eventually I will feel that way with his sisters as well.
Post # 5
Thank you! I feel more confident about doing that now. I was just concerned that that might be trying to push our relationship too quickly, but im not going to make it anything its not, just let her know where i would like to see our relationship go, anyways it looks like ill be doing this monday!! eeeek
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2012 - Patrick C. Haley Mansion, Joliet, IL
Um… yeah. My brother and I are both engaged and I personally feel it would be really awkward to push forward a relationship that really isn’t there. If it blooms organically, that’s cool. But what if she doesn’t agree about the closeness you desire? There’s no reaction she can have other than saying yes that doesn’t come off really terribly.
My brother’s fiancee asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and she and I are not close at all. I like her, but we just never clicked. So I said no. But then I had to deal with all our family’s judgement after that. I felt like she could have <b><i>not</i></b> asked me because everyone else she asked were her close friends.
Perhaps you’re closer to her already than this post suggests though.
Post # 7
I think thats a great idea. I would do the same with my brother and his now Girlfriend if and when they decide to marry. me and my sisters would most lkely give her a talk as well, Maybe one of the reasons is becuse werre ehhh ok with her.. she thinks ccuz shes stacked with money shes the It. lol, but yes, i think she will feel welcome and if theres any tension between you two, then it would break it 🙂