(Closed) should I have been invited?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Well it was rude to talk about it in front of you, but also potentially unavoidable if everyone was around and they were being asked about it. My guess is that you weren’t invited because of space restrictions, and since you didn’t invite them to your wedding, they didn’t feel obligated to invite you to theirs. I can understand feeling slighted, but just try to be happy for them and realize that they probably have to make the same tough choices that you had to make.

Post # 4
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Ouch. This is poor form all around. If the ENTIRE rest of your family was invited, I think it’s very rude that you were excluded. Anyone you can talk to and try to find out why the lack of invite?

Post # 5
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I would have brought up the fact that you didn’t receive an invite.  I know that I’ve had an invite get lost in the mail, and the couple thought I was being rude, but I never received it!  I also had a couple of my invites to people get lost in the mail!  (I would definitely have brought up not receiving an invite in front of everyone, since it really is rude if they didn’t invite you and they were talking about it in front of you!)

Post # 7
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I guess I just can’t understand how ALL siblings + spouses were invited and not you.

That is NOT a space limitation. That is somehow personal, it seems.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You may just need to kindly ask your family to stop with the wedding talk when you’re around. They should respect your feelings on that.

Post # 9
Member
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

sounds like a slight of sorts… maybe they are still pissed you didnt invite them to your wedding?

Post # 10
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think it’s odd that you weren’t invited.  I’m inviting some siblings of a family but not others since I’m not close to them.  My Fiance is inviting some of his mom’s sisters and even some of the uninvited aunts children but not all his mom’s sisters because he doesn’t know them.  We don’t feel obligated to invite people we aren’t close to.

What is weird is talking about it in front of you.  You’re close enough that you could’ve been invited.  Does your family know you haven’t received an invite?  I do think that’s rude and also indicates that maybe you were invited.  I’m not sure what you can do though to find out though.  You may have to wait until they go chasing for RSVP’s.  If you were invited, how would your address have been supplied to them?

Post # 12
Member
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is kinda weird that they would invite your entire family except you.  And really rude that they would talk about it to your siblings right in front of you.  I wouldn’t worry about it though, she’s the one that looks bad not you.

Post # 14
Member
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Well, it’s great that something positive comes out of this. Go to the concert, have a great time, and forget about that needless drama!

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