- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
im getting married in November. My plan was to have 3 bm’s and my sister as the moh. Lately i have been debating wether or not to have bm’s. I define bm’s as the girls who you have close relationship with and therefore the girls that somewhat help you or keep in touch with you OFTEN. So i decided to have my 3 cousins as my bm’s!!! Exciting right?! Not since the beginning of the year. Two of my bridesmaids live with me. I hardly talk to them and when we are all in the same house they make their own plans and leave me behind. Im not trying to sound like a teenager or play the victim but shouldnt i be included as well? I feel as they are doing me the favor for being my bm’s which is totallly wrong because i chose them because i THOUGHT that we had a good relationship with each other. I dont even get a simple “can i help you with…” Its too bad that when i come home i dont even get a simple Hi even if we live in the same house.. Feel like total strangers.
So i went with only bm to try on bridesmaid dresses. I asked her to choose dresses that she thought she would like and I, myself, chose some that i liked. Well, the one’s that i was choosing didnt seem to rub the bm the right way. (Believe me, i would no choose a horrible dress, i would want them to look nice.) well, she didnt seem to like my options. She tried on her choices and non of them seem to fit her body type. As soon as she tried on my options she changed her opinion saying, oh it didnt look good on the hanger. Anywho, the bridesmaid are giving me slack about dresses. That they should choose their own dresses or simply saying,”since im buying i should choose my own.”
So should i just back out and tell them that im not having any bm’s.
By The Way..one of my bridesmaids lives in Cali and barely found out that shes pregnant so she is out..shes actually the only one that i keep contact with the most and is forward to wear which ever dress i choose! and of course my sister is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor
so should have bm’s or not?