(Closed) Should I have brought her along??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you should just tell her what happened. especially the part about the sale. Anything else would probably be hurtful

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think she would understand.  Usually that’s a mother/daughter thing.  You could always take her when you go for alterations.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would just be completely honest with her and explain it just like you did here. Tell her that you’re sorry she wasn’t there with you and then suggest something else special for the wedding that maybe you can do with just her. Perhaps you guys can even go dress shopping for her just the two of you. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Are you planning on wearing a veil? Do you still need shoes? Have you figured out jewelry? etc. – maybe you can include her on some of these things.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Did you tell her you’d bring her dress shopping?  Because I agree with PP that is usually a mother/daughter thing and I don’t think Future Mother-In-Law would normally expect to be included. I would never have considered bringing my Mother-In-Law along, and I’m certain she didn’t feel lert out, why should she?

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Call the store and explain the situation. SEE IF YOU CAN RETURN IT… and then “go shopping again”

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yea, just tell her what happened. Tell her that it was the one and it was too good to pass up. The exact same thing happened to me and I was so afraid to tell my Future Mother-In-Law and SIL. When I finally did, they were really happy for me and glad I was able to get what I wanted. I think it’ll be OK.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@amazinglysimple:  I don’t think you even need to address it.  My Mother-In-Law asked me after the fact if I looked at dresses, to which I replied “Yes, I already purchased it.”  It was important that I share that experience with my Mom and Sister.  She seemed to be upset but I just let it go and didn’t push the issue and further, apologize, try to explain, etc.  It really not her concern if you ask me.  If you really feel compelled to talk to her about it, then I would just tell her the truth.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tell her the truth. You had no plan on purchasing that day but you fell in love with a dress that was on sale! How often does that happen? I’m sure she will understand. You can make plans to bring her shoe/veil/accessory shopping, or invite her to your fittings. Thats what I did. I actually found my wedding dress when I was alone! So my Future Mother-In-Law came shoe shopping with me and to my final fitting. We had a great time!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I didn’t bring my Future Mother-In-Law. Let her come to your alterations and fittings.

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