(Closed) Should I have flower girl match my dress? Sorta complicated

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should flower girl dress mine?
    Save yourself from the drama and pick a different dress : (2 votes)
    15 %
    Screw the brother and have her wear what you want : (11 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Im confused, did your FI’s brother say he didnt want her to wear a dress that matches yours?

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m a little confused – why does her dress matching yours become an issue here??  He knows she’s the Flower Girl, right?

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Who’s paying for it?

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He doesn’t want her dress to match yours? Has he said this?

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Your FI’s brother is giving me a headache, I think you should do whatever will cause you less stress in the long run.  If you dont want it to be an issue down the line then pick a different dress, if you know you’re going to hear it from him and dont care then pick the matching dress.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I am so confused… you are just assuming he will have a problem with it?

    Maybe he will, maybe he won’t. Who cares though?

    Pick whatever dress you like.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @lindsayandchris09:  In terms of the situation, pick whatever you like.  But I would suggest picking something a bit more appropriate for a toddler, it doesn’t look very comfortable for a little one.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’m confused, why would you want the flower girl to wear a matching dress? I say do whatever you want, but I definitely would pick a more colorful and more fun dress for the younger one, it would be a pain if the little one was unconfortable during the ceremony. 

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I agree with @Cappugcino:. I think, as the bride, you certainly may choose whatever dress you would like your Flower Girl to wear. However, from a practical standpoint, the design and style of that dress doesn’t seem as if it would work very well in a 24-month or 2T size (there may not be enought height over which to spread so many design elements as there is with your gown or an older child’s size.) Also, this is just my opinion, but I think from a design/style perspective, it would be best if your FGs dress was the same color as yours but wasn’t an exact, mini-replica.  I think your dress should be completely special and unique, and not necessarily reproduced in miniature on the flower girl. Again, that is just my opinion, however. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I didn’t vote for either, because I don’t like it when the flower girl looks like a little bride and/or matches the bride.

    So, I’d just vote for a plain old “no.”

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I agree with PPs. You can pick whatever dress you want her to wear, especially if you’re paying for it. Honestly, he’s a guy, don’t tell him and he may not even notice. However, I’m not sure that design would work on a toddler so maybe it’s not even an issue.

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