Post # 17
I agree with those who have said that they’ve been posting details.
I’ve tried not to be like “invitations are out!” so that people don’t feel excluded but I did mention that I was working on them, or when I said I was confused about centerpieces. I’ve posted how excited I am that the day is coming up fast, but I’m trying not to post every day about it. And certainly haven’t in the past. I think a post here and there isn’t bad. Like Goodatlove said, even if Im not invited I love hearing people’s wedding details and I understand they can’t invite everyone they want to.
Post # 18
If you’re posting things about the wedding constantly it might be a bit much for some people. I have an old work colleague on FB who is getting married next year and she is CONSTANTLY posting updates about wedding this and wedding that. From an outsiders perspective it starts to get a bit nauseating after the 5th update for the day.
If it’s occasional and in between posts about other non wedding stuff it’s not so bad.
I am having to be careful with my FB as i have a lot of aquaintances on there due to business & hobbies. Some have sort of just assumed they would be invited and they are definitely not. There are going to be some noses out of joint for sure, but we have a small venue so I genuinely can’t invite them. I am therefore careful not to post any wedding planning details publicly.
One thing you can do is set up a friends list of just wedding guests. That way you can post a status and actually set the privacy for that status to be seen only by the wedding guest friend list. That way the non-inviteds won’t get loads of updates!
Post # 19
“Okay, that doesn’t even count as a cousin. My Fiance is my 7th cousin and everyone agrees it’s fine, lol.”
that’s hella funny! My Matron of honor is my 9th cousin, we are so barely related but I am closer to her than my first cousins. I almost didnt invite my first cousins who I grew up with cause I never see them. I see and talk to my Matron of Honor (9th cousin) on a daily/weekly basis.
I only post when its something like “I just saved $300 on invites!” or “I just got all 200 of our thank you cards and place settings for $10!” or “I got 60 save the dates for one penny, God Bless Clearance bins!” or ” How many people did you have at your wedding?” … tacky?
I am a self admitted fb whore. But I don’t only post about my wedding. Being on the bees boards has helped me channel my obession to the proper venue!
Post # 20
I also talking about how I cant wait, but not EXACT details. Its a Destination Wedding so I mention where it is, but I never mentioned when I sent out Save the Dates and wont mention when I send out invitations. I do not post my wedding website and message people in a mass message who are invited any new wedding details or developments.
Post # 21
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I guess it depends who you have friended. I have about 300 friends (mostly sorority) and I know a lot of people from college who would expect to be invited. I didn’t want to deal with that. We only had a budget for 75 people. Once we were married, I started posting pictures. 🙂
Post # 22
hmm, I have about 300 fb friends and maybe a lot of them are people from elementary, middle school and high school or people I worked with over 7 years ago that found me and wanted to keep in touch. I am sure they wouldn’t think they would be invited. I have a few coworkers who I hide my posts from and just bout everyone else is family. looks like the trend is to be vauge about it. SOOOO hard! im SO excited about my wedding! 🙁
but that is what wedding bees is all about huh? being about to vent and share without pissing off your close loved ones lol!
Post # 23
We actually are having a small, intimate wedding. So yeah- it wouldn’t really be nice if I did. I hardly ever post on fb period, let alone about the wedding.
Post # 24
I haven’t at all so far and probably won’t. Our guest list is super small but I probably wouldn’t even if it were bigger. The more I can do to avoid the “Can I come?”s the better.
Post # 25
Since I am doing a small immediate family wedding I have not posted anything on FB about it because I don’t want the rest of my family knowing anything about it, or assuming they will be invited.
Post # 26
My wedding is going to be a small Destination Wedding.. I post about it maybe 2-3 times a month, but I try not to say to much because about 97% of my friends list will not be invited, LoL. I’ve already had a couple of people seemingly invite themselves *sigh*.
Post # 27
Even if we had gone with the invite only immeadiate family route I would have known my family on fb would understand. My fam would just understand (shrug). Of my whole family, and my dad has 10 brothers and sisters, only my 2 sisters and my parents have had a traditional wedding. Everyone else eloped. The only thing getting me through planning my wedding is the idea that it is MY wedding…ok ok OUR wedding and we can do what we want and if people judge me for being tacky or whatever then that it was thier deal not mine. All my friends are married and so they have gone through it and understand. I just thought I was commiting this HUGE ettiquite error and was out and out rude.
Post # 28
I havent posted one thing ever about it. and I do not talk to my coworkers about it unless they ask a question and I give a simple answer and change the subject.
Post # 29
I think it’s pretty rude. I mean, if you were at a party talking to a group of people who weren’t invited about your wedding it would be rude, so why not Facebook?
Limit yourself to maybe one comment a fortnight or so. It’s kinda like people posting daily photos of their kids. Nobody cares as much as you do and chances are people will get annoyed 😉
Alternatively you could write statuses and hide them from those not invited?
Post # 30
I haven’t posted a single thing about our plans. No way. I’m a private person anyway, so it would be very out of charachter for me to become a chatty Betty. The only way people will find out is when I change my status. I refuse to be one of those FBers who goes on and on about their wedding. I just don’t get why anyone would care about the mundane details of planning my wedding…especially if they aren’t invited.
Post # 31
I’m guilty of posting everything having to do with the wedding. like… “yay we just bought our wedding rings!”
I’m sure it’ll all be ok!