- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
OK, so I know this isn’t a huge deal…and I understand that I love my Mother-In-Law very much…but Mother-In-Law has very few boundaries. I know that she is the type of person that just feels better when she knows she’s needed and likes to give a lot of unsolicited advice. So, we went to dinner w/MIL last night and this is how the conversation went roughly:
Mother-In-Law: So ya’ll are finally looking into a house? Good now you can stop throwing away money on rent. I’ve been telling you forever that I hate that apartment ya’ll live in, it’s so old and I hate that ya’ll are wasting your money. I just don’t know WHY you insist on throwing away your money. Plus I just hate that area ya’ll live in with all those old houses.
US: Yeah, we are actually looking into the same area, because part of the reason we moved into the area to begin with is that it is beautiful and charming, and yes we know it will be a lot of work, but we have been approved for an FHA rehab loan, etc… (long story short, we’ve really done our research and decided that this was best for us)
Mother-In-Law: Well I know it’s your decision but why do you want an OLD house that lot’s of people have lived in when you could buy something nice and new outside of the city. (BTW: all things we DON’T want) I really just don’t see why ya’ll want the hassle. And I know it’s your decision, but ***complain complain complain complain**
Darling Husband: It’s our decision, mom. I know you care, but it’s our decision.
She continues to go on about this for about 15 more minutes…finally topic changes.
BIL: James, did you get a ticket?
Darling Husband: yes.
Mother-In-Law: What, how could you get a ticket? It isn’t paid? Ya’ll really need to grow up. You just cannot let these things happen. Greenviolets, ya’ll really need to learn to be responsible, etc etc etc.
Me: I have been living on my own for the last ten years and have managed just fine, thank you.
Ok, so maybe that was a little shitty, and I feel bad for it, but I just get sick of it! She always makes comments too about how she needs to teach me to cook (I already know how), how she needs to teach me to make a budget (I already know how), etc…and I just kinda lost it.
Any advice on how to set good boundaries in a nicer way?