(Closed) Should I have my bachelorette party the night before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Which night should I have my bachelorette party?

    Friday night before Saturday night wedding (everyone could come - 25 gals)

    Thurs. night before Sat. night wedding (Chicago guests, some OOT but no Milwaukee guests - 12 gals)

    1 month before wedding (Chicago and Milwaukee guests, but no OOT guests - 8 gals)

    Don't have one

  • Post # 3
    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I would at least do it Thursday night. Not in a hundred years would I do it the night before.

    Waaaaaaaaaaaaay too many episodes of Bridezilla where someone thought that was a good idea and everyone’s hungover, cranky, or sleeps in waaaaaaay late.

    Post # 4
    590 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

    I think it would be fun to go out after rehersal dinner, but I would want it to be with Fiance and everyone. Not just a girls thing and not too late into the night (I <3 my beauty sleep) I would have a bachelorette the week before with whoever can make it to Chicago and call it good.

    What time is your wedding ceremony?

    Post # 5
    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I say not the night before the wedding. But any other night would be fine. 🙂


    Post # 6
    6995 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Neither my husband or I had a bach party mostly because he doesnt have many friends here so we waiting until the thursday before our wedding when most of our friends came into town and had a little shindig then. it was lots of fun!


    Post # 7
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @paut0012:  Hahaha if it’s going to be anything like mine, DON’T do it before the wedding!  But, if like you said, it will be low key, I suppose you could.  I think maybe Thursday would be better.

    Post # 8
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m planning for a pretty low key bachelorette party, too, and we are doing it the Friday before my Sunday wedding. I didn’t want people to have to travel twice (most of my BMs are OOT), but I also didn’t want to have to go to bed early or watch my drinking (not that I would get incoherent, but I don’t want more than a glass or two the night before my wedding). Everyone seems happy with my decision so far, I’ll let you know how it goes after May 4th 🙂

    Post # 10
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    ooo terrible idea… get your rest the night before the wedding.  Even the week of your wedding is stressful, you won’t believe how many last minute things you’ll have to get done – I was up late every night that week finalizing seating charts/placecards, assembling programs, menus, putting together boxes of decor, packing, coordinating with vendors, dropping off out-of-town bags, the rehearsal dinner, the bridesmaids luncheon…  At least a week before, but better to do it a month before.  And 1-1/2 hours isn’t a very far drive, just get a hotel suite for everyone to crash at afterwards!

    Post # 11
    4674 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree, not the night before the wedding…  you may be too stressed out to enjoy it.  At least have it on the Thursday before.  

    Post # 12
    4674 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @reebee:  I agree! I live in Milwaukee and love excuses to come down to Chicago! If I had kids I would have no problem leaving them with dad or a babysitter! 

    Post # 13
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m having my bachelorette the Friday night before the wedding (it’s a Destination Wedding in Vegas). The wedding will be at 6:30pm on Saturday so I feel that people will be able to recover from a hard night of drinking if it DOES happen. All of the guests I’d want there are coming from out of town so having a party any earlier back at home would be pointless as nobody would show up and there is NO way I’m going to ask people to take an extra day off of work to come in Thursday! I think for your situation (slightly similar to mine), you don’t really have a choice. The only difference between our situations is my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs support the Friday bachelorette plan! I’ve gotten a lot of “nays” here on the boards.. but sometimes there’s not much you can do when people aren’t in the immediate vicinity and you really want them there!

    Post # 15
    3373 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    TERRIBLE idea to have it the night before. Even if you’re not hung over, there’s a good chance someone will be in your bridal party. I think Thursday is a good compromise!

    Post # 16
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I just got to say I shuddered at the thought of the night before 🙂 You want to look refreshed the day of!

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