(Closed) Should I have my dad walk me down the aisle?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Are you still planning on your parents coming to the wedding? If I were you, I wouldn’t let him have any of that recognition after what he said. I wouldn’t even allow them at my wedding

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is a very hard situation. I am going through the same thing myself. My dad and I have not gotten along my entire life. He just doesn’t seem to care about me. I think he’s always despised me because I look and act like my mother. He has a lot of money and has never helped me with anything but he is more than willing to help my brother. We had a big blow up when I was 18 that almost got physically abusive. He has held his tongue since that last fight but he is not helping me with the wedding and I don’t know that I want him to walk me down the aisle either. My FH hates him. I don’t know what to do either. Parents are hard to cut off. But I think that would do it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Personally I wouldn’t want to associate with that kind of negativity on my wedding day. I would choose the sadness of excluding him over the tenseness, uncertainty and possible resentment of including him knowing how cruel and aggressive he can be. That’s just my take on it.

*hugs* I hope you can come to a decision that feels right for you.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I kinda feel like at this point, you have 2 options – keep them in your life and deal with the disgusting way you are treated, or cut them out completely

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would cut them out–they are abusing you and you do NOT deserve to be treated this way.  Have you talked to them about how they treat you? If so and they still do this, cut them out like a cancer.  You don’t need them there on what is going to be the happiest day of your life.  Period. 

I’m sorry you’re having to go through such a hard time.  (((hugs)))

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@SleepingWithNuns: Then in that case, cut them out like a cancer.  They have no place in your life.  If they can clean their act up and realize what they’ve done to you then maybe–when/if you want to reconcile.  You don’t need that kind of s#!^ of your wedding day.

Post # 13
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@SleepingWithNuns: then disinvited them from everything, and stick to it. I promise, your life will be that much better.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SleepingWithNuns: Im so sorry this is happening to you. I would say have someone else dance with you (Maybe a Brother, Good friend, etc) if you really want to have the dance

HUGS!

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