Post # 1
so yesterday, i posted a funny video of obama singing iggy’s “fancy” on FI’s facebook (http://youtu.be/b8tFaU571xg). a bunch of our friends liked it and commented the usual “hahaha” etc. on the video. BUT one of his friends who i’ve never met before simply posted a picture of obama with the caption “give that man a watermelon”(http://makeameme.org/meme/give-that-man-2uedvt).
i was not cool with this, so i wrote something along the lines of “please don’t post stuff like this on my pics – legit offensive”. in the meantime, i also texted Fiance and was like why is your friend being so offside on your facebook? Fiance deleted the pic and my request to take it down. shortly after, FI’s friend who posted the picture commented “Sorry, wasn’t meant to be offensive. The “give that man a watermelon” is a popular meme right now. The only reason I have it paired with Obama is because I have a ton of Obama memes. They’re my favs.”
BUT, then he proceeded to message Fiance and say “as if she’s all butthurt over that pic – good luck with your marriage”. <br />
so… somehow he’s managed to be the first person to question if i’m good wife material to Fiance and i’m so rattled over that! i mean, i felt like i HAD to say something, but should i have just said nothing and kept the peace?? augh.
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I totally would have too if some random ass was being seemingly racist on my facebook. And it turns out he’s a meddling jerk as well.
Post # 3
He sounds insanely immature. Don’t let it bother you, your Fiance knows you are obviously wife material. Anyone who dsnt tolerate racist Facebook posts is absolutly wife material anyway, he’s just po’d you called him out to his buddy.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
im gonna stay away from the obama stuff, and whether either of you were in the right or wrong. BUT what he sent to your Fiance is just plain RUDE! my jaw dropped when i saw that! your comment did not warrant that type of response. hes an idiot
Post # 5
MrsMcQN: honestly…it’s facebook. i would have just deleted his comment and not said anything (because deleting it says enough about the fact that you don’t approve; it’s racist, of course you dont’!). if he still came back and said anything over it, and for future reference, all you need to do is respond by saying that it could be offensive to some and that you don’t want to have it on the thread.
also i’m kind of confused–were you posting on your fb or on your FI’s account?
regardless…unless the friend posted something legitimately offensive about you, i don’t even think you would need to text your Fiance about it. have a laugh about how clueless the friend is when you get home, but i think you overreacted. and i think the friend is being a dick too.
when it comes to facebook: i say just drop it.
Post # 6
That was a disgusting remark which anyone with half a brain would consider racist. I would have deleted the photo immediately and PMed him privately to tell him why.
Post # 7
I am by no stretch of the imagination an Obama fan, but I wouldn’t tolerate that type of thing at all. This is why I don’t post political stuff on Facebook, because by doing so (even “innocent” stuff) you open up the dialogue for people to start giving their unwanted opinions. Sounds like a learning lesson: you learned what a giant jerk that guy is.
Post # 8
MrsMcQN: I didn’t look at either link, but what he posted sounds racist to me. So that makes him a major jacka$$. And since he’s a jacka$$ I would expect him to say something jacka$$ery to your Fiance. I would’ve said something. There’s all sorts of stupid stuff on FB, but racist stuff ain’t gonna fly with me.
Post # 9
MrsMcQN: I’m glad you said something! Too often people let ignorant comments and posts like his slide and it’s not ok. He probably just got embarassed that he got called out and that’s why he made that nasty comment. Bottom line that meme is offensive and I wouldn’t want that tied to my post either.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
MrsMcQN: Don’t let some racist jerkmake you question your “wife material” status. You spoke up for something you didn’t agree with. I think that makes you amazing wife material!
Post # 11
lolot: BWLE: theEguarantee: tks girls xo
MrsHalpert: you’re right, it wasn’t offensive about ME. it just felt wrong to laugh it off i guess
weddingmaven: the problem was that i posted the video to FI’s facebook, so i couldn’t delete the pic in the comments section (i tried actually at first). FI’s friend is also one of those people that you can’t message unless you’re his “friend” on there.
Mrs_Amanda: ya, i never really considered that it could take such a left turn
Post # 12
RedHeadKel: spiffanee: rosegoldgirl: thanks so much. i feel a thousand times better already <3
Post # 13
I am glad you said something. I hate the passive agressive aproach of deleting things or ignoring comments… grinds my gears!
Post # 14
MrsMcQN: As a Black woman, I’d like to thank you for saying something. Thank you for calling him on his pseudo-racist ish. People love to backpedal once they realize no one finds their little sly comments funny. I’m glad you said something. Never let anyone question what you believe in. He was an asshole. You called him on it. (And you know you did because he offered up an excuse that didn’t make ANY sense. I’m on social media a lot and I’ve NEVER seen a meme called “give that man a watermelon”).
Post # 15
MrsMcQN: He sounds like an immature bigot, don’t let it get to you.