(Closed) Should I have said something???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would have jokingly said, “I guess we’re married, then!”

Just to see his reaction.

Sometimes my SO likes to say this. He says he already thinks of me as his wife in his heart. So, I don’t know, maybe your SO looks at it the same way.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t see the problem. It sounds like just a cute term to refer to someone’s partner? I always talk to my best friend about “her man” or “her boy” and they’re definetly married. I’m sure he doesn’t think gf/bf and husband/wife are the same thing…he probably just uses the term loosely. 

Post # 5
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395 posts
Helper bee

I don’t see a problem with it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t read much into it.  When Darling Husband comes home, and finds me wherever I happen to be in the house, he often says “oh, there’s my best/favourite girl”.  I’m fairly certain he knows we’re married 😛

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

Its not a big deal. She is his girl. Clearly he knows their married so I don’t see what the issue is. I wouldn’t have said anything to begin with.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

He didn’t call her “his girlFRIEND,” just “his girl.” That’s totally fine. His girl is like the word apple. It can refer to a girlfriend or a wife without specifying which one it is. If someone asks you what you’re eating you usually say, “an apple” not “a Fuji” and people still understand. You don’t always have to refer to someone by their legal title. Which is why people use names like his girl, or her man, or his partner, or her SO, etc. It’s really not a big deal. I woudn’t have said anything either.

Post # 10
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Did he specifically say that “girlfriend” and wife were the same, or was he saying that “girl” and “wife” were the same?

No matter stage of our relationship we’re in, I’ll always be FI’s girl.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MissMaryMc: This! This is how I intepreted what he said. Unless he specified differently, I’m thinking he meant that the term “his girl” and “his wife” are the same thing. I wouldn’t stress out over terminology unless he specifically says it’s a reason not to be engaged. My SO jokingly calls me his wife all the time and I know he doesn’t honestly think it’s the same 😛 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My fiance calls me his “old lady” so.. I wouldn’t be too worried about “his girl”. Haha

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