Post # 1
When I was 19 I started working as a receptionist for a mortgage lending company and made friends with two girls who were also my age, we hung out all the time and went for friday afterwork drinks every friday.. I am now 24 and have left said job and only have contact with one of the girls, we don’t catch up as much as we used to obviously since we don’t see each other every day but we still make sure we see each other a few time a month and text all the time.. I consider her one of my best friends.
Well we were just texting and we got on to talking about how soon I think SO is going to propose and she said she was so excited for me because I deseve it because I’m so wonderful and she loves me and I responded by saying “Aw thank you so much buddy!! I hope you like purple because that’s going to be the colour of your bridesmaids dress!!! Xoxoxox”
She was so happy and said she would love to be a bridesmaid, I then told her I would obviously “officially” ask her when I do become engaged but now I feel like a weirdo for mentioning it before I actually am engaged lol!! I’m thinking of having 3-4 BM’s and now 2 of them know they will be in the party lol!! I’m unstoppable when it comes to pre-planning I swear! 🙂
Has anyone else told their friends that they would be in the wedding party BEFORE being engaged?
ETA: I know I won’t regret my decision to have her in the wedding party so there is no chance of it gettng messy I just wasn’t sure if it was normal lol
Post # 3
I told my girls all along “When fiance and I get married, your gonna be my bridesmaid” so I don’t think its weird!!
Post # 4
Haha guilty! I told my Maid/Matron of Honor before I was engaged… but then I officially asked her after the engagement.
Post # 5
it’s cute! at least she knows !
Post # 6
If y’all are such good friends that it’s a for sure thing, I don’t think it’s weird at all!
Post # 7
Haha, most of my bridesmaids knew they would be bridesmaids before I even started dating my fiance!
Post # 8
I think most of my girls knew they’d be part of the bridal party. I never said it flat-out, but there are friendships where you just know who’d be up with you without ever having to say it!
Post # 9
My best friends were sending me pictures of bridesmaid dresses the day after I told them FI and were talking about getting married. Thats what best friends do, they talk about weddings, the future and how exciting life is. She is your best friend so I wouldn’t stress about it.
Post # 10
My best friend was pretty much all around assumed to be my MoH once I was engaged. Once I entered into a relationship with my husband, we both knew that this was it. She had seen me through my (very serious long term) past relationship and breaking up with him meant that something amazing had come into my life.
So, I think at least she was expecting it!
Post # 11
I think all my girls know or assume they’ll be in the wedding. My closest college friend and I used to talk about being eachothers bridesmaids all the time, like when we were 19 and both single.
Post # 12
All of mine new they’d be in the wedding before I got engaged.
Post # 13
I think with some people, it’s kind of a given. Although, I’d still “officially” ask them at some point, just to make sure everyone knows what going on. I’ve seen some friends go through some friend-messes with misunderstandings about who’s a bridemaid and who isn’t.
Post # 14
No I haven’t and I haven’t told them yet even though I am engaged, although I’ve implied it. And I’ve been engaged for 3 months now. I’m waiting til I officially ask them because I want to make it special.
Post # 15
most of mine knew they would be in the wedding waaay before I even got engaged! So no, I don’t think it’s weird