Should I head off confusion over who hosts bridal shower…?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
47193 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

scipioblack :  There’s no law against having more than one shower. The key is ask the hosts to ensure that there is no duplication of the guest list. The BM”s and Moms would probably be invited to both, but with the expectation that they would not bring gifts.

Your Future Mother-In-Law can host for the groom’s side of the family, and the BM’s a more general guest list.

Post # 3
7201 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

scipioblack :  You’re right that usually it’s the bridesmaids who throw the shower. However, if your Future Mother-In-Law is excited about throwing one WITH your mom, then maybe suggest they cohost a family party and your bridesmaids can do friends? 

I ended up with three showers becuase I have a huge family and when my Maid/Matron of Honor offered to host I didn’t want to overwhelm her so she just hosted my friends and a small section of family who she knows. Then my cousin/bridesmaid hosted a shower for her side of the family. Then I think my father’s side of the family saw pictures pop up on social media of one of the showers and suddenly wanted to throw one for them. Other people (like someone with a huge house or a small wedding) could have gotten away with one. Just let whomever wants to host one do it. 

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