(Closed) Should I hire Irish dancers for my wedding or is it offensive?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@aconnor82:  I’m not sure I would have interpreted his comment to mean that he wanted his Italian heritage represented, but that he would like to be able to have more of his side of the family attend.

Post # 4
710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@aconnor82:  I don’t see how this would be offensive. Maybe have the DJ play a few Italian songs (Tarantella, That’s Amore, etc). 

Post # 5
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s a good idea since he also has Irish heritage. I’m not super familiar with Italian wedding customs, but I know the Itialian weddings I’ve been to have had sweets tables with classic Italian desserts like cannoli.

If I were you I would just talk to FI. “I was thinking to have Irish dancers at the wedding since we’re both Irish, but I want to make sure both of our families are represented. Are there any Italian customs you would like included? Or any special family traditions?” He may not even want an Italian thing, but maybe some random family thing like if his Great Uncle Joe used to play a banjo solo at family events so you could get a banjo player. Just make it clear that you haven’t booked the dancers yet and are open to ideas, that way it’s not just something you’re doing it’s something you’re coming up with together.

Post # 6
12614 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it’s offensive, but I do think it’s a bit strange.

Post # 9
12614 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@aconnor82:  I don’t intend for this to come off as bad as I know it’s going to sound, but to me, it comes off more as a performance/recital than a wedding reception.  I guess I just don’t understand the point. 

Post # 10
277 posts
Helper bee

@aconnor82:  I wouldn’t enjoy performers. If I wanted to see dancing, I would pay to go see dancing, but watching others dance (no matter how good they are) is not entertaining for me.

Post # 12
1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@aconnor82:  I wouldn’t do it myself, but if it is something that interests you and your FI then you should do it.

As for representing the Italian side you can see about whether your venue offers a dessert table or see about offering traditional Italian desserts (like canolis and biscotti). You can also play Italian songs during the reception. And you can always try googling Italian wedding customs.


Post # 14
12259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can’t imagine anyone finding that offensive! Maybe you could serve “Italian Wedding Soup” to placate him?

Post # 15
714 posts
Busy bee

@aconnor82:  I’d enjoy15 minutes of Irish dance 🙂

I just hate it when programs get too long and boring. 

But 15 minutes sounds fun.

Post # 16
6125 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@aconnor82:  If you are paying you get to say!  I don’t think it will be offensive.  I love watching Irish dancing.  Maybe you can do an authentic Italian wedding cake or some Italian tradition.  Then his side is represented.



My H is of Norwegian/Swedish decent and I am of Irish decent so we did one Irish and one Swedish thing (couldn’t find a doable Norwegian thing or we would have done that).



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