Post # 1
Because of previous debates, we already know the “proper” etiquette rules with registry information…(only include registry info in bridal shower invites) but I think this can get tricky.
Here’s my thing. I want a Lingerie Bridal Shower. I have always viewed bridal showers as the sexy/naughty (but still classy) party were the bride can get ready for her married night life I thought that my lingerie size would be included in the bridal shower invite and my registry info would be included in the wedding invite.
So then it seems natural to say, “Just include both your lingerie info and the registry info in the bridal shower invite.” But wouldn’t this option confuse my guest on the actual theme of my bridal shower….my Lingerie Bridal Shower?
Vote and let me know what you think!
Post # 3
You can get lingerie as gifts but how is it a lingerie themed party? I would think asking for lingerie gifts doesnt make it the theme of the party and even if it is, including your registry card shouldn’t confuse guests.
Post # 4
if you really only want lingerie for the bridal shower (i wanted that too, but didnt have the guts to ask my sister and mom for it who are planning my shower!), then i would keep them separate so people are not confused.
there will be people on here telling you not to put the home registry card in the wedding invite (i don;t think there is a problem with it). but even if you decide to put no registry info in the wedding invite, i would still only put the lingerie one in your bridal shower. i HIGHLY doubt people would start buying you lingerie for your wedding gift! you would either get cash or people will ask for your home registry info.
but i voted to put one card in each (your first option)
Post # 5
put the lingerie info on the invite, and spread the word about the registry via word of mouth. don’t put your lingerie info on the website…that’s just odd.
also, usually the lingerie bridal shower is the one thrown by the bms where mostly your friends are invited. i don’t know how many showers you’re having or who’s invited to each one, but do you really want granny buying you lingerie?
Post # 6
now that i think about it though….what lingerie registry card is there? like for a specific store like Victoria;s Secret?
i am not sure if i would do that either. i would just ask whoever is planning your shower to put ON the actual invitation what type of shower it is. come up with a phrase or something.
for example, on my shower invites, my Maid/Matron of Honor put this at the bottom in smaller font:
In lieu of gifts, we are accepting contributions towards a camera for the bride and groom to help capture their destination wedding and honeymoon memories!
we did that because i CANNOT take home gifts. i am flying to my home town for the holidays and having my shower then. i cannot bring gifts back with me and Fiance and I could really use a nice camera for our wedding since we will be in Jamaica and all, we thought it was a good idea for the shower.
Post # 7
what lingerie registry card is there? like for a specific store like Victoria;s Secret?
I would include my lingerie size info (not a card). The stores are chosen by the guests.
Post # 8
I’d just put the bra/panty sizes in the invite. Nobody wants to watch someone open money towards a down payment at a bachelorette. That should be on their website or word-of-moth!
Post # 9
@crayfish: ya i agree about the “opening money” as a gift. i was worried about that too with my camera gift. but what we did was pre-order the camera we want and it will be delivered to my mom’s house. she’s gonna wrap it and i will open it at the shower. i figure i can start using it then too!
so ya, i agree that you should just put your size info for the lingerie and no home registry info for the shower
Post # 10
@kitzy: I have been to showers where the granny’s bought lingerie. It was awesome 🙂
Post # 11
The bridal shower is to shower you with presents for your home… if you want lingerie, it needs to be LABELED a Lingerie shower, not a bridal shower. Lingerie showers are VERY common, but they are a separate event.
For myself, and within our circle of friends, we typically throw it the night of the bachelorette. After we eat/dance/do whatever… we go somewhere where the bachelorette can open lingerie gifts.
Others I’ve been to are just random nights.
Personally, I like the bachelorette night the best… The invites just say bra and panty size along wth a sm-m-lrg description so people can buy whatever they want. There is no registry.
Etiquette dictates that your registry does NOT go in the wedding invite. A home registry can go in a bridal shower invite as the purpose is to shower you with gifts for your home. But again, a lingerie party is a separate event and should be labeled as such. Home registries should go online or be spread by word of mouth for the wedding.
Post # 12
My friend got married this past year and she had a normal wedding shower a couple months before their wedding but then had a smaller “private shower” for lingerie and other goodies like lotions and even a few gag gifts (ill let you use your imagination with this one) a couple weeks before the wedding. It was a blast – i hope my bridesmaids decide to do something similar for me 🙂
Post # 13
PLUS it was really inexpensive for them to throw the second shower – so it’s more parties for you pre-wedding without your bridesmaids going broke. They just had some wine and snacks at the MOH’s house.
Post # 14
sounds like a lingerie shower rather than a bridal shower. I think the invites need changing