(Closed) Should I include my Dad in the program?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am so sorry. If you are listing the names of your parents and grandparents in the program then I would include his name.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with roxy– it may cause more drama if you don’t plus some guests might wonder why you are shunning him. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I really think that it depends on your personal situation.  If your dad has “better things to do” than join you and your Fiance in celebrating your WEDDING (!) I would probably never speak to my father again, much less include him in the program.

That’s just me though, I can totally understand the other posters pov’s…but at the same time a dad should act like a dad – if they don’t then I don’t think should be treated like one.

Please don’t bash me…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally understand, and I really think it’s dependent on why he’s not coming and if y’all have had past issues.  I’ve had issues with my father for a while now, and so if he didn’t show or told me that he wasn’t coming, because he had other things to do (because of our history) it would be the final straw.

So it’s really dependent on your situation.  Is there more to the “better things to do” story?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Why should his name be in the program?  I’m confused why this would in any way be obligatory if he won’t be in attendance?  If he’s not hosting (i.e. paying) and he’s not attending…why?  I wouldn’t include his name.  You’ve got better things to do.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hmmm. If I were attending and saw his name there, I would think that something had happened to him and that’s why he wasn’t there. And people may be asking where he is. Incidentally if you want to answer “he decided to go fishing instead” and make him look like an ass, you could certainly include him. This is such a small detail that I’m not sure anyone will care past a few family members. Maybe you should just leave him in at the bottom. Father of the bride (not attending): _________ or something. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, just read the reason….and um wow.  I can’t believe he wasn’t even honest with you about why he’s not coming (doesn’t want to see your mom/ex wife), and gave you some bogus reason (giving blood – not even sure how that has anything to do with it).  While I understand that you are trying to be the bigger person in the situation (and I totally commend you for that), I just don’t see how he’s earned being in the program.  If he can’t get over or put aside his feelings/selfishness for one day to celebrate his DAUGHTERS WEDDING – It would be hard for me personally to see why he should be included in the program. 

-Good Luck and I really hope everything goes well!

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