(Closed) Should I include parent’s names if they’re not hosting?

posted 11 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am not putting parents name on the invitations. I am paying for everything. I also didn’t want the argument with who goes first or who think they are should have this or that more than another family because of this and that..so I was like, I’m doing just us and deal with it.

You might be able to do Bride and Groom with their families kind of invites

Post # 4
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re not doing it. The way we’re wording it is this:

Bride & Groom request the pleasure of your company on the eleventh day of November, 2011, 6:30 pm, to join in the celebration of their marriage, etc. etc.

Post # 5
24 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

We included both parents not because they contributed equally but because we wanted to honor both sets of parents equally. I don’t think any of our guests thought, okay since there are both sets of parents they’re equally paying.

Post # 6
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We are paying for everything ourselves, so we are not including parents or anyone else on the invites. You only put other people on the invites if they are hosting the event.

I haven’t done our invites yet, but they will start out with something like:

bride & groom request the honor of your presence….

Post # 7
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you want your parents names but they are not hosting, you can put “HerFirst Last, daughter of Mr and Mrs Whatever” and “HisFirst Last, son of Mr and Mrs Whatever”

We went for the “Together with their parents, Bride & Groom…” because our parents are helping out some, but I didn’t like the wordiness of spelling all the names out.

Post # 8
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We are paying for 90% of our wedding but both sets of parents contributed to some things (flowers, dress, cake) so we worded ours like this: (fictional names)

Jane Sara

and John Bob

Along with their parents

Jon and Joane Doe


Bob and Barb Smith

Invite you to celebrate in the joing of two families

Blah blah blah

Post # 9
2039 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You can also put,

“Together with their parents, Jane Doe and John Smith invite you to blah blah blah…”

I personally think it’s always nice to include both sets of parents on the invitation in some way, unless there’s some serious bad blood between you/FI and them.

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We’re not putting their names either– that way there’s no drama about who’s names are coming first, My Fiance is paying for the wedding too so they’re not hosting.


Post # 11
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had originally planned on not including the parents names because we are hosting the wedding our selves and paying for everything.  When I explained this to my mom after she had sent me a list of family I was told has to be invited she was very upset with hurt feelings and all.  So to soothe her feelings the list of people she sent me will get a different invitation than our other guests that includes thier names.  It’s a little more work but it made me feel a lot less guilty about hurting her feelings.

Post # 12
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We didn’t include our parents on the invitations. Honestly, I never even thought about it and no one said a thing about it.

Post # 13
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We paid for our wedding, but still wanted to include our parents’ names:

The pleasure of your company
is requested at the marriage of
Miss Bride’s full name
daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Mom MaidenName,
Mr. Groom’s full name,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Mom LastName,
on day, the date of month
two thousand and ten
at hour o’clock in the afternoon

Post # 14
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We have an odd situation where FI’s parents contributed some and my parents said they will help a little as well, but so far we’re paying for most.  So we just put “Bride and Groom, together with their parents request…”

Post # 15
2631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are paying for most of it, and his parents are doing the reception dinner. To make sure my parents didn’t feel left out we went with, “Together with their parents…”

Post # 16
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My parents hosted, but we still listed DH’s parents on the invitation by saying “Son of X and X”

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