Post # 1
So I’m getting frustrated with finding the perfect wedding band to go with my e-ring and decided I don’t really need one!
He also doesn’t care to have a wedding ring BUT I have my e-ring to show that I’m “taken” whereas he wouldn’t have anything on his finger.
I trust him obviously but should I insist that he wears one? Is it just inviting trouble for him not to, other women might think he’s single etc.
Any opinions welcome, thanks
Post # 2
A ring won’t stop people from hitting on him. It’s completely symbolic it doesn’t hold any actual power to prevent cheating or someone flirting with him. So, no I would not insist on him wearing a ring if he doesn’t want to.
Post # 3
Why doesn’t he care? Does he just not like jewelry? My parents have been married almost 30 years and my dad has never worn his wedding ring. He absolutely hates jewelry of any kind and has never worn any type. I wouldn’t “insist” or demand that your Fiance wear one but I’d be curious to know the reason why he doesn’t want to.
Post # 4
I peronsally think if he doesn’t want to wear one, then he doesn’t have to wear it. But you might want to get one at least for the ceremony?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t mind if Fiance doesn’t wear a wedding band. I actually will be surprised if he wears his consistently. My father never wore one and my parents have been happily married 30 years, so I suppose that’s why it doesn’t bother me.
Is there a reason he doesn’t want to wear it? I know most men just aren’t huge jewelry fans. But if he works with his hands or something, I can definitely see not wanting to wear one.
If a woman hits on him because he doesn’t wear a ring, all he has to do is say he’s happily married!
Post # 6
My SO doesn’t like jewelry and I told him that it’s up to him whether or not he wants to wear a ring. I’m not really worried about other women thinking he is single, but I really wanted to show that I’m taken.
I guess it’s up to the two of you to come to a compromise that will make you both happy.
Post # 7
Get a cheaper one just for the ceremony and if he ever wants to wear it, when you go out or something, it’s there. A ring isn’t going to stop someone from flirting with him, his attitude will. In the agricutlure world most men DON’T wear rings, I know way to many that are missing ring fingers because they did.
Maybe the both of you can get plain white gold or gold bands for the ceremony and then store them or wear yours when you shouldn’t be wearing your e-ring or something…
Post # 8
My Fiance is not a fan of jewelry of any kind, and simply couldn’t wear one at work (it’s prohibited). I love the symbolism of a ring though, and let him know that it means a lot to me that he wears one at least sometimes. He agreed, but we aren’t getting married until June, so we’ll see what ‘sometimes’ looks like after that! I didn’t want to insist that he wears one, but come to some sort of compromise instead.
Post # 9
I think insisting your partner wear anything, including a wedding band, is not okay.
His body, his choice.
If somebody hits on him, he can use his words and say, “No thank you, I’m married”.
Post # 10
If he doesn’t insist you to wear your ring then you can’t insist him. If he does require young wear one then he should wear one too. you can ask him nicely but it is up to him, like it is up to you.
as for other women. ring is not gonna stop anyone. and anyone with out a ring is not assumed to be single.also if a woman tries to hit on him because she doesn’t know he is married…so what. he will just say ” I’m married”. that is what means more.
Post # 11
My husband said he would not wear a ring, he can’t at work. We got a plain gold band for the ceremony (matches mine). Turns out he likes to wear it, and puts it on after work every day. Get him one he may change his mind.
Post # 12
I’d get him something plain and comfortable for the ceremony and then just see how he likes wearing it once you’re married. Lots of men hate jewelry and others just aren’t used to it. He may find he likes it.
I wouldn’t force him though if he doesn’t like it. A ring won’t magically stop women from hitting on him. He should be able to do that himself.
Post # 13
Get an inexpensive one for the ceremony and if he doesn’t want to wear it all the time it can be put up for special occasions. We got my husband an engraved Tungsten band from Etsy for $35! Amazon also has a lot of options. My hubs doesn’t like wearing jewelry but is very sentimental and wanted to exchange rings during our vows. You could also try Qalo or similar silicone bands for everyday wear. He bought himself a Qalo band but that reacted badly with his skin so now he doesn’t wear a ring most days and he only wears his wedding band on special ocassions like visiting my family, work functions, fancy dinners etc. Do what you want but imo getting a band even a cheap on will prevent having regrets about not exchanging it during your vows and you both can decide from there if he is going to wear it all the time or not. If he doesn’t want to wear it all the time that’s ok. People will know he is married by his conduct and honestly a lot of women don’t even care if a man is married,if anything they want him more! So forget society and the need to display that one is “taken”
Post # 14
dw4518 : My fiance’ isn’t able to wear his ring to work but he will be able to wear it outside of work. Is there a reason for him not wanting to wear one? Oh and women are always hitting on my fiance’ and we aren’t even married yet. Wearing a ring will not stop women from trying to talk to him.
Post # 15
Definitely do not insist… As others have said, the lack of a ring won’t make him any less married to you, nor will having one stop anyone from hitting on him (in fact, there are some studies out there that indicate that single, hetero women find men with wedding rings MORE attractive).
But maybe encourage? Let him know that it would make you happy. Perhaps he will feel inclined to wear one on date nights or family trips if he knows you appreciate it.
And if he doesn’t, that sucks, but it is his choice. And you’ll have to let it go… But trust me, I understand it’s a tough one to convince yourself doesn’t matter.
Fwiw, my husband didn’t want one/said he’d “maybe” wear it, but we ended up getting one and he’s in love with it! Maybe the same will happen to you 😊