Should I insist he wears a wedding ring?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It does bother me when my husband doesn’t wear his ring but in the nature of his work he can’t wear it sometimes. Which doesn’t bother me if he can’t, better to be safe than sorry. I however would like him to wear it outside of work, more symbolizes to me than anything and plus if you wear it, it is less likely to get lost. I have told him if he loses this ring, we will not be buying a expensive one as this ring was again as it’s hard to afford it. 

Post # 92
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

dw4518 :  

Unfortunately, you can’t make him wear one. 

My husband didn’t want to wear one, but I said, “can we at least do it for the ceremony so we can exchange rings?” He said yes.

He and I spent awhile online picking one out and he found one he liked, and now he actually wears it probably 99% of the time. Sometimes he will forget to put it back on after he cleans, but otherwise, it’s on and he even gets embarassed if he forgets.

Once, we were cleaning and we went to a party, and one of his friend’s brothers got married, and I pointed out his ring and said, “Hey, my husband has a similar ring!” and then he said, “Uh… I… forgot!” and laughed. I don’t see it as a big deal- we both know we’re married.

Post # 94
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394 posts
Helper bee

I wouldn’t insist.  However, if he insist on you wearing a ring I’d ask why.  After all, if it’s good for the goose it’s good for the gander…

On both sides of my family men never wear wedding rings.  On only one side of my family women wear engagement and wedding rings.  A ring has never stopped someone from hitting on someone of from someone from cheating.  After all, it is just a piece of jewelry.

Post # 95
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

For the record, I would not look at white gold. I would stick with a solid colored metal (platinum, yellow gold) so there will be no maintence or risk of an nickel reaction. My Darling Husband loves and wears a titanium band. Its super lightweight and it made adjusting to a wedding band better for him. For a reluctant guy, getting to wear a “cool” metal that will be nearly weightless on his hand may work better. Just be sure he is sized properly as they can’t be resized. 

http://www.boonerings.com/signature.htm

https://www.titaniumringsforever.com/

Yes, they are harder than gold to cut off in an accident. But, this is not airplane grade titanium. You can remove them with a standard ring cutter (which every hospital has). Cobolt rings can just be shattered…which is kinda cool too.

 

Post # 96
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865 posts
Busy bee

A ring will nver stop a bad choice.

Post # 97
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Newbee

My dad never wore his because of his work and my Fiance is a surgeon so I don’t expect him to always wear it in the future since it’d be a hassle when he scrubs in and out of the OR and I don’t want him to lose it. Maybe figure out why your partner doesn’t want to wear a band (maybe he doesn’t like jewerly on his hands/has to use his hands a lot and is uncomfortable/???) If it really is an comfort thing, maybe wearing it as a necklace would help. 

Post # 98
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2568 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I’m really disappointed no one brought up the episode of Seinfeld when George borrows Kramer’s dad’s wedding band because he thinks it makes women more attracted to a man when he wears a wedding band. He wears it to a party and has like 3 women fighting over him. He takes the ring off and says he’s not really married and the women all leave and think he’s a creep! 

Post # 99
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - The George, Christchurch

My husband doesnt wear a ring. He never wears any jewelly (not even a watch), but he also gets excema inside his fingers. His dad also doesn’t wear a ring so it’s almost what he is use to. 

He wore 1 for the ceremony and our wedding day and also the breakfast after but after that it went away. 

It use to annoy me but now I don’t mind. He is still my husband and if anyone asks him he just says he is happily married. 

I’m surprised just how many people don’t wear rings now. 

I would never insist, I’ve asked and he has explained and we leave it at that. 

Post # 100
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480 posts
Helper bee

Of course a wedding ring would stop a marjority of women (who notice) from hitting on him. That’s natural. Then again, it won’t stop all women, and could probably even trigger some pathetic ones.

Somehow it feels so typical for weddingbee to see so many people saying it does not make a difference wheather he wears one or not.  🙄 I am just like you, I know he can talk, and know that he would, but I would prefer that no one would come on to him in the first place (he is the same way as I am), I know I can’t prevent that 100%, but I do have higher thoughts about my own gender in general than to believe that that many would, knowingly, hit on a taken man. Luckily my chosen one doesnt mind wearing an engagement band/wedding band (where I live the guys wear their band from the engagement, the same ring transforms into a wedding band att the wedding) 🙂 

 

I think that you should att least make sure that he gets one, and he could maybe promise you to give it a try? Make sure it is a comfortable one! Have you asked him how he would feel if you went ringless?

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