Post # 1
We wanted to have a wedding of about 80 people. So far when we write out our guestlists, we have about 65. I know that usually about 25% don’t show up. To be honest, we are inviting out family, coworkers, and a few close friends (we do not have too many). With this being said, I do not want a wedding of 30-40 people. My venue required that we pay a minimum of $5000 and if only 40 or 50 people come, even with an open bar it wouldn’t make the $5000 minimum and theyll charge us that REGARDLESS. So ladies, what I am asking is, should I invite some aquaintances. People who I like, who are nice to me, but I don’t really hang out with outside of work or school? People who are friends from highschool that I haven’t seen for years but talk to on Facebook? Am I only supposed to invite people who I will likely be talking to in a few years? Advice?
Post # 3
@Tswife4ever: if you want to meet your minumum then why not? Or perhaps let your parents and FI’s parents know that there is room for 15 more people? I wouldn’t invite just anyone, but if you like them and theyre genuinely nice to you then I’m sure they’ll appreciate it.
Post # 4
I don’t think you’ll notice on the day the difference between having 60 people or 80 people in attendance, as long as you are surrounded by the people that mean the most to you! That said, if there is a minimum spend at the reception & money is going to go to waste then why not invite some accquaintances to enjoy the day?
Post # 5
I’d be inclined to ask parents who they’d like to invite rather than random people from school you no longer see. Also, you could allow your single friends to bring a + 1.
Post # 6
If meeting the minimum is what you’re concerned about, can you add or upgrade options to up the price once you know you don’t have enough people? Adding a cocktail hour with passed hors d’oeuvres, a late night snack, a speciality coffee drink (or a coffee bar), a dessert bar, or an upgraded meal may do the trick and then you can just keep the list to those you have.